Kokopelli
Resident Boa Fanatic
Hey people,
Look, I know it's nobody's problem and I imagine some of you would rather not have to listen to my complaints... or have enough of your own...
If that's the case, I am sorry, and you shouldn't read on.
I am going through a hard time. Or rather... things tend to be complicated for me.
But I came to a point where I really just need to write it down, to channel it somehow.
So... it goes like this.
My mother was recently diagnosed and she is dietetic. She also is a bit struggling financially.
My father is nearing his retirement and will not be able to provide for himself in the future apparently, again, financial issues.
They divorced when I was 7, up to that time I didn't see a whole lot of either of them.
My sister, whom is my mother's daughter from another father(Her father died at war before she married my dad)- She has multiple sclerosis. Her husband was recently(around 6 months ago) diagnosed with severe cancer that has already spread throughout the interior of his stomach and other organs- He went through chemotherapy and things seemed to get better... but now it again became worse.
From her side of the family, there's an hereditary deformity that causes cancerous growths to spontaneously grow in the head and brain. She lost her grandmother and uncle last year because of it. Now her uncle's daughter had to go through surgery to remove a tumor.... only now, her uncle's son has it too and needs to go through a risky surgery.
I live out on my own, working full time and at night I learn at a college for my first degree.
A month and a half ago my girlfriend and I broke up, which wasn't too easy though now... I find it harder to forgive myself for how I allowed myself to be treated than anything else.
I know I try my best to accept reality as it is, without complaining, without burdening the whole world. And to actually still give thanks for the fact that I am well.
But this sense of helplessness to help everyone around me...
I barely have time for myself, and I try to help as much as I can but I admit... I don't have enough reserves to be able to go through a day and still help everyone as much as I would like.
This is a reality for me... this is how life has been for the past few years... and every few months something happens... like my dad going to the hospital cause he suffered from severe vertigo and couldn't get up from bed.
On top of that I sometimes hear people whisper negative nonsense about me or my friends because of the foolish ego competition in the field over here...
I am just... tired. It's like you want to get up, and every time you're close to it, something knocks you back on your ass...
I don't pity myself, I don't feel like I'm a "poor soul".
I have alot to thank for... but the paradox is, that knowing this, I sometimes feel guilty for feeling a bit miserable at times.
I so desperately want serenity but I don't manage to achieve this state.
I apologize for "whining". I needed an outlet. I am sorry if it bothered anyone.
Oren.
Look, I know it's nobody's problem and I imagine some of you would rather not have to listen to my complaints... or have enough of your own...
If that's the case, I am sorry, and you shouldn't read on.
I am going through a hard time. Or rather... things tend to be complicated for me.
But I came to a point where I really just need to write it down, to channel it somehow.
So... it goes like this.
My mother was recently diagnosed and she is dietetic. She also is a bit struggling financially.
My father is nearing his retirement and will not be able to provide for himself in the future apparently, again, financial issues.
They divorced when I was 7, up to that time I didn't see a whole lot of either of them.
My sister, whom is my mother's daughter from another father(Her father died at war before she married my dad)- She has multiple sclerosis. Her husband was recently(around 6 months ago) diagnosed with severe cancer that has already spread throughout the interior of his stomach and other organs- He went through chemotherapy and things seemed to get better... but now it again became worse.
From her side of the family, there's an hereditary deformity that causes cancerous growths to spontaneously grow in the head and brain. She lost her grandmother and uncle last year because of it. Now her uncle's daughter had to go through surgery to remove a tumor.... only now, her uncle's son has it too and needs to go through a risky surgery.
I live out on my own, working full time and at night I learn at a college for my first degree.
A month and a half ago my girlfriend and I broke up, which wasn't too easy though now... I find it harder to forgive myself for how I allowed myself to be treated than anything else.
I know I try my best to accept reality as it is, without complaining, without burdening the whole world. And to actually still give thanks for the fact that I am well.
But this sense of helplessness to help everyone around me...
I barely have time for myself, and I try to help as much as I can but I admit... I don't have enough reserves to be able to go through a day and still help everyone as much as I would like.
This is a reality for me... this is how life has been for the past few years... and every few months something happens... like my dad going to the hospital cause he suffered from severe vertigo and couldn't get up from bed.
On top of that I sometimes hear people whisper negative nonsense about me or my friends because of the foolish ego competition in the field over here...
I am just... tired. It's like you want to get up, and every time you're close to it, something knocks you back on your ass...
I don't pity myself, I don't feel like I'm a "poor soul".
I have alot to thank for... but the paradox is, that knowing this, I sometimes feel guilty for feeling a bit miserable at times.
I so desperately want serenity but I don't manage to achieve this state.
I apologize for "whining". I needed an outlet. I am sorry if it bothered anyone.
Oren.