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starting to bug me

ghosthousecorns said:
It started with the DYK thread, watching the same people chat about random stuff and rep each other over and over. Then the social groups thing, because ONE random thread wasn't enough I guess?

It gets old to wade through the drivel and try to find relevant things.
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Jen, you've got to know that you are one of my favorite people here but I had to respond to this...

The DYK thread is very easy to skip over and I find that the social groups are a PITA to get to from the main screen. So I don't really understand the "having to wade through it" part. :shrugs:

For me DYK is a stress relief sounding board. I'm very stressed out in general right now, my brain is so busy solving my own problems all day it gets too tired to solve controversial snake topics. For some reason it is just relaxing for me to go somewhere for a bit and talk to people about their day and tell them about mine. Some stuff in there is completely useless, but a lot of times there are things that are really important to people but they don't feel it's important/relevant enough for it's own thread. DYK kind of gives them an outlet for that. I'd imagine without DYK there would be a lot more threads started in GCC about random things, at least DYK keeps it more concentrated and easier to skip over for those who are not interested.

I think another part of the problem is that lately there seems to be a lot of confrontational newbies or overly sensitive posters. The last few interesting threads I was involved in got totally derailed by beginners knowing it all and not wanting to take advice. Or if you state any kind of constructive criticism people get their feelings hurt and think you are being mean. Are people coming here for correct information and honest educated opinions or are they just looking for a pat on the back over everything they are doing regardless if it's for the best of their animal or their place in this hobby?

So many times people ask for help and opinions and you have to walk on eggshells making sure your response doesn't set them off. Sometimes having very well thought out responses rejected by those who asked for it sends me to my DYK happy place.

Maybe a little bit is also due to the fact that I've been breeding enough years to have developed what works for me. I have little interest in changing anything unless it would really impact my corns heath for the better. I also have no interest in convincing anyone that my way is best. So that really leaves me with not much to say in the cornsnake posts. Especially since the rash of confrontational newbie posts. They can make a belt out of their cornsnake for all I care, it's a free country. I could use my useless logic on them from dawn until dusk and I won't get anywhere so why waste my time?
 
carol said:
Jen, you've got to know that you are one of my favorite people here

Maybe a little bit is also due to the fact that I've been breeding enough years to have developed what works for me. I have little interest in changing anything unless it would really impact my corns heath for the better. I also have no interest in convincing anyone that my way is best.
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I have to agree with Carol. I really liked the first and last paragraphs.
 
carol said:
So many times people ask for help and opinions and you have to walk on eggshells making sure your response doesn't set them off. Sometimes having very well thought out responses rejected by those who asked for it sends me to my DYK happy place.
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I've begun attempting to use the KISS method when I do decide to answer a newbs question(s). If they decide to respond by getting confrontational or disagree, I don't have to respond! I gave them what I thought was the best answer. It's refreshing. ;)

D80
 
wade said:
If they get confrontational you can give them the KISS MA response.
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Oh Kiss my Asp..

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Heck, I'm trying to finish up my taxes, breeding season is going to WAY overlap laying season, have to work with two part time helpers this year because EVERY darn interviewee we talked to would have been worse then useless here, our road has been an impassable mud quagmire lately since the roads department put some sort of clay junk over top of the sand and we are getting LOTS of rain, got back two mosquito magnets from taking over a month to get repaired and one came back with parts missing, I've got my main computer dead right now with hard drive errors after being back to the shop for the fourth time and down more than it has been up in the past 6 months, got a new computer sitting right here (to replace the one just mentioned) that had memory errors this morning after running diagnostics all night, and this 6 year old computer I'm using right now to type this is acting kind of strange.

Me? Stressed out? Pains in my chest? You betcha... I pointedly try to stay out of conversations on all my sites right now, because that fuse is SO short that I would blow up faster than an eyeblink.....

Oh lovely, I hear the rain beating on the roof right now and have to get over to the reptile building to do more work. I just DARE any of those little suckers to give me any grief tonight......... :poke: Of course, the way the rain sounds right now, I may drown before I get over there anyway...
 
oh wow Rich. Well I haven't done my taxes either. I've just been putting it off until the last minute because I ran my own business last year and it is so hard getting the books in some semblance of order.. I think more people would have their own business if doing the taxes for that wasn't such a hassle.
Consider this my invitation for the Zoloft Margarita party!
 
ghosthousecorns said:
oh wow Rich. Well I haven't done my taxes either. I've just been putting it off until the last minute because I ran my own business last year and it is so hard getting the books in some semblance of order.. I think more people would have their own business if doing the taxes for that wasn't such a hassle.
Consider this my invitation for the Zoloft Margarita party!
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You're SO right about the taxes! The self employment stuff is a total hassle. My hubby's taking his turn at finishing up that same dreadful task even as I type....

My favorite tax-related giggle is in the IRS explanation of what sorts of income are to be reported as self employment income. The official directive includes specific directive to report ALL FUNDS COLLECTED FROM THE SALE OF ILLEGAL DRUGS!! Yeah, I know that's included to make prosecution for failure to report it legal, but STILL!!!! :laugh: :rofl: :roflmao:
 
ghosthousecorns said:
oh wow Rich. Well I haven't done my taxes either. I've just been putting it off until the last minute because I ran my own business last year and it is so hard getting the books in some semblance of order.. I think more people would have their own business if doing the taxes for that wasn't such a hassle.
Consider this my invitation for the Zoloft Margarita party!
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Thanks for the invitation..... But I've got a box of aged Valiums in the desk drawer that I bought years ago when things were getting pretty tough around here. Haven't had to touch them in a few years, but I think I may have to tap into them this year before it is over with. Connie is trying hard to keep me sane by taking on more and more of the workload, but she had a an operation on her leg not that long ago, and now has braces on her teeth because of a jaw misalignment problem. So she's not feeling all that spiffy herself.

As for taxes, that is the biggest load of crap that any "free" people have to put up with. Every line on the 1040 form spawns at least three more that you have to do. And this is after Congress passed "tax simplification" years ago. I heard from someone that there was a movement about to mail a teabag to the IRS on April 15th...... Perhaps to signify a nationwide "Boston tea party". Sounds like a good idea to me. So much wasted effort just trying to figure out this tax stuff. All to be spent frivolously by our "representatives" in Washington D.C. on stuff that most of us don't even agree needs to be funded anyway.

I swear, a foam rubber padded room sounds better and better to me with every passing year. Just give me enough padding that I will be able to bounce and I'll be happy........ :crazy01:
 
There I was, thinking I was the only one with the winter blues and it turns out lots of people the world over are feeling the same!

I thought some of the recent posts, with those same old questions, requiring the same old answers and then being taken totally off topic, were grating on my nerves more because I've been feeling tetchy and irritable as I've still not fully recovered from my illness last year (I ended up in hospital again yesterday :( ).

I've refrained from answering many posts over the last few months or so, for fear of being too harsh or snarky with my response, although some people do snarky very well, (not mentioning any names ;) ) I'm afraid I'm not very good at it and it would come across as being nasty, which is the last thing I want to be!

I will say though, that I've enjoyed a lot of the DYK thread and in fact when I was at my lowest ebb, I got a lot of support from members after posting about my illness there. I wouldn't have felt comfortable posting a new thread to tell the forum I'd been so ill, but it felt comfortable doing so there, like a chat with friends over coffee. Also it was/is uplifting to see the random thoughts and feelings of other members that are posted there, the highlights and lowlights of their days, to be happy for them and feel bad with them, and I've probably learned more about the members that post there in the short time that thread has been alive, than I had in the first couple of years of being a member of this forum, so because of all that I'm grateful the thread was started, it's been my form of zoloft if you will ;) :)

Saying all of that, I'm still looking forward to the more serious cornsnake discussions that I KNOW will start popping up as breeding season really gets going, the trials and tribulations of failed breedings/clutches and the joy of successful breedings/clutches and the new morphs that will WOW us all! :D

Reading some of the posts in this thread and especially Rich's posts put things more into perspective for me, I really don't know how he manages it all, but am truly grateful for all that he does do, including providing this great forum!!!
 
ghosthousecorns said:
oh wow Rich. Well I haven't done my taxes either. I've just been putting it off until the last minute because I ran my own business last year and it is so hard getting the books in some semblance of order.. I think more people would have their own business if doing the taxes for that wasn't such a hassle.
Consider this my invitation for the Zoloft Margarita party!
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I'm in.

While I read a good majority of posts, I rarely post anymore as well.

Unless of course we're talking tequila AND anti depressants. WOOT!

((Huggss too all you insiders)))

-Tonya
 
SnakeCreations said:
I'm in.

While I read a good majority of posts, I rarely post anymore as well.

Unless of course we're talking tequila AND anti depressants. WOOT!

((Huggss too all you insiders)))

-Tonya
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You mean that's all it's going to take to get you out of the woodwork? :grin01:

Dale
 
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