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Originally Posted by kathylove
It is a shame when people let their emotions take over to the point where they would give up a (hopefully) valued friendship over something as unimportant as doing volunteer work on a forum. She may rethink her decision after time has allowed logic to settle in. If not, then she may not have been as good of a friend as you thought. And she might have done you a favor by showing her true colors, and allowing you to move on to a deeper friendship elsewhere. You have lots of friends here!
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This was, I suppose, the final "straw." She has not approved of my relationship with Tara due to a single incident that I have asked her repeatedly to let go. I also started to feel as if she was "crushing" on me in a big way... the way she has been acting towards Tara just seems like classic jealousy to me. I have tried working things out... told her this was nothing personal, simply me moving on to other interests and trying to do right by a forum I don't fit in at anymore. If she can't understand that, I can't make her, you know?
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Originally Posted by wade
I've never really understood the function of a moderator.
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I am a member of a wide variety of forums. I spent most of my time here and at this fish forum, and I modded for another fish forum for a time as well. Each forum has a different flavor. I believe Kathy said that here folks do a great job of self-policing. At the fish forum, this was not the case. It was a much more... politically correct.... forum. You were basically told to bend over backwards to be polite to all people. As a moderator I once got chastised for a thread on PETA that went bad... we had a member who was spreading PETA propganda on the board and I called her out on it with links to PETA's info on fish keeping and captive animals as pets. She then turned around and said I was attacking her for her opinion (heck, maybe I was-- but I am NOT sorry for it) and I got reprimanded.
They also don't like it when you tell someone, particularly a newby, that what they are doing or saying is likely to get their fish killed. You're supposed to be gentle with people new to the forum... to me, a pet forum should do its best to get people to not kill their new pets... it would be like people being all mild and happy on here if someone came in and said they were keeping their corn in a 10 gallon without heat in a 65 degree house... do we beat around the bush or just come right out and say "Hey, that isn't gonna work, here's why..."
I like that in this forum you can basically express any opinion you want and people might give you a hard time, but it's not going to be censored and you won't be pulled aside and told to "stop that now." I like that we are here for the animals first and foremost and cut out the crap when people are clearly abusing their pets. I don't know if that makes sense, but that is how I have started to feel with regards to forums.