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*VENT* What a horrible month this was....RIP Toby

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It all started with the flood to end all floods. Offically this awful month started in the last 2 days of March, but who's counting? The shop was flooded and we lost our furnace.

Then on April 12, I had to say goodbye to one of the sweetest ratties that ever shared my life. Winchester was just a black hooded feeder boy, but he gave the best cuddles and kisses ever. He was a good guy and I miss him.

Then my husband has an attack of Crohns disease, and needs emergency surgery. Not only does this have an emotional impact, but a major financial one as well, since our business is run by the both of us, and until he gets better there will be no one to build bikes or do repairs. His surgery is scheduled for May 6, the day before my birthday....

And tonight I come home from work to find Toby dead. Toby was my 16 year old Irian Jaya blue tongue skink. I got him for my 32nd birthday, and he was my first reptile. He has been a part of my life for such a long time. He had been slowing down the last few years but I had no idea he was about to leave me.....I just finished cleaning out his cage. Right now I'm too stunned to cry, but I know that is coming.

And to top it all off, Roosevelt (Winchester's cagemate) is failing. He loves his new roomates, took to them right away. But his resp illness and the loss of Winchester is taking it's toll. I don't think he will last through the next 2 weeks......

May has to be better than April was......


EDIT And how did I forget Kismet? He was an incredible orange striped thingy that was a possible fire stripe. The day before Easter he started hemoraging from the vent and mouth, and died....he was only a 2005.....UGH
 
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Wow, Bethany. I'm so sorry to hear about all of your troubles. *hugs* I certainly hope May is much better for you. RIP Toby and Winchester.
 
Beth, I am so sorry to hear about all your trouble. You know I love you and am think about you and Rick. I want reports after his surgery.
 
Bethany, I too am sorry for all that is going on in your life. I'm hoping that your Hubby gets through this with flying colors and that you're able to celebrate your birthday with him in some fashion even while he recovers.

I'm also sorry for your losses... bless you for having cared for Toby for 16 years and Winchester for ANY amount of time he lived (he was a feeder, right)!! They probably couldn't have had a better owner.

I hope that Roosevelt lasts longer than you think he will...

You're in my thoughts and heart, Bethany.
 
*hugs* Aww Beth I'm so sorry to hear that Winchester and Toby passed and that Roosevelt isn't doing well. I hope your husband's surgery goes well and he gets better. I hope things start turning around for you.
 
Thanks everyone...
I'm just sitting here bawling and reading the messages and drinking a glass of peppermint schnapps cut with ice water. The only booze in the house right now, and it tastes like mouthwash. I know it will keep me up all night.but right now I don't care. OK, one thing at a time I can handle, you know? The flood...ok...furnace gone but we don't need another til fall...(not that we can afford one til then but anyway...)....Winchester, yes that HURT, but you know when you get them that they don't live very long. My hubby, now that is a blow....but it is a common surgery and we found out today that he might only be in the hospital for 2-3 days...that is wonderful. He will be home! Even if I have to go to work alone, he will be home when I get back. I have never lived alone before and...working all day and coming home to an empty house for a week or more....on top of everything else....

but Toby on top of that. Toby dead? How can that be? Look at all that's happened in the past 16 years and Toby saw it all...saw it with me....how can he be gone?
 
Hang in there babe, it will get better. You won't be alone, you will be in the hospital every night with Rick. It will pass and will be better, trust me.
 
I can't believe the luck your having it's sure been pouring on you lately:( I hope karma kicks in soon and gives you the reward you seriously deserve.
 
Beth, I'm so sorry about Toby! Why do they have to live such short lives??? But that isn't a bad way to go- live a full life with a loving owner like you, and then just die peacefully one day in your old age, without becoming sick, declining, vet visits...Everyone should be as lucky as Toby.
 
Oh, Beth I am so sorry! If there is anything I can do to help, let me know, OK? I'm not that far away.
 
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Beth, I'm so sorry about Toby! Why do they have to live such short lives??? But that isn't a bad way to go- live a full life with a loving owner like you, and then just die peacefully one day in your old age, without becoming sick, declining, vet visits...Everyone should be as lucky as Toby.
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Funny thing though Nanci, Toby was 16 years old. He was such a wonderful skink. The length of time I had him makes losing him even worse than when I lose a furry friend, because I can hardly remember a time without him! He will be so missed....
 
Bethany, I hope things take a turn for the good. Keep your chin up. I hope all goes well and a fast recovery for your husband!
 
This is alot to go through all at once, but you need to take one day at a time and put it behind you when each day is over.

When it comes to the medical bills, ask the doctors, hospital and lab if they offer a sliding scale for payment, or any kind of charitable discounts for self pay patients. Never be afraid to ask! Especially if you have to foot the bill without insurance. If you have insurance, that's even better, but if you don't, make sure to ask of you qualify for any discounts. Our lab will honor any discount given by the physcian. If the dr gives the patient a 40% discount, we will match that. Most people don't know about things like that.

Best of luck, I know brighter days lie ahead.
 
Wow. I don't know what to say. I, like Steph, wish I lived closer so I could help out at the shop. I'm pretty handy mechanically but I think my main goal would be to pester you to the point of distraction. That way you would be so annoyed with me the rest of the sadness wouldn't seem so heavy. May is the best month ever! (My birthday, then your birthday, WOOT!) Ya know my blue tongue skinks are gravid and the little newbies make excellent b-day presents...if that would help any? Hang in there, it WILL get better.
Terri
 
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