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LittleJohn

LittleJohn

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Have any of you had a problem getting a Snake because of someone?
My wife is giving me a hard time even after I have him.
Reason? She doesnt like the idea of mice in the freezer and it's all to much trouble to care for.
I told her that she doesnt have to see the feeding or the mice..ever! but that goes in one ear and out the other.Im having a good time caring for him so far....altough worrying alot.
The best part is that she loves the snake......thinks hes to cute!
So I would like to hear any stories you may have that gave you a hard time getting a snake.
 
Well you could get a small freezer or dorm-type fridge in your basement or something just for the mice. What's she going to make you do with it when you already have the snake?
 
My husband doesn't like snakes but he doesn't make an issue with the mice in the freezer. I use one draw only for the mice and anything used to cool the wine but no food.
Maybe just having one of the freezer draw for the mice only would be a good idea.
You can say that if you can't have the mice in the freezer, you would need to buy one just for the mice (going over the top might work) and if she says no, than you can say that you cannot then have frozen mice therefore you would have to have live mice...
That might change her point of view about mice in the communal freezer ;)
 
Well theres nothing really she can do now that I have him I just think its silly to get upset about something that can be wrapped in a black plastic bag and put in the corner in the freezer....I mean she is a animal lover and I dont think anyone has a argument on the whole...."Oh the poor little mice" deal.It's nature!
jenkva...You made a great point.......would she rather see a live one get crushed and eaten or a little balck bag in the freezer?
 
When I was 12 I wanted a snake. My mom said NO WAY, but my dad said we will think. Then a few days later they both said no. I was mad and always bothered them about. Then one day when i was gone the went to a pet store and looked at one. They came home and told me get in the car lets go look. SO i ended up getting one. :cheers:
 
Personally I think it's important to make sure everybodies needs are met and especially that they can feel comfortable in their own house. If your wife is so uncomfortable with having dead mice in the freezer that she absolutely can't compromise on it, then it probably would be good to get a little dorm type freezer/fridge to keep them in. They don't cost much to run, and usually can be found for around $50, maybe less if used.

If all you two have to quarrel about is dead mice, that's pretty awesome. :rolleyes:
 
Ok, sorry I think I may have misread a little. My previous post was written with the idea that she was squeamish about having dead mice near the human food and not so much out of sympathy for the mice.

If she is a mouse sympathizer then you can let her know that when I tried raising mice, more of my mice ate their own children and mates than snakes ever got to. It was ridiculous, and I have zero respect now for any mammal that would eat it's own offspring when provided with plenty and space, food and water.
 
It took me solid months to talk my GF into letting me have a snake. It will share a house with her eventually, and that just creeps her out. She just doesn't like snakes for some reason. So eventually she said I could have one snake, a small one, non-venemous (I think she thinks venom producing snakes are very common in the pet trade), and it has to stay somewhere away from her when it lives at home, the basement preferably.

So I went out shopping, had everything set up. Chose a breeder, was waiting on snakes to be ready. Around the first of July, I ordered my snake, and then she started back-pedaling on me. "Are you really going to get a snake?" "It's going to live at home over breaks and all?" "MICE? It eats MICE?" "Why do you want a snake?"

I was so frustrated. As she explained it- it was okay to tell me back at the end of '05 that I could get a snake, and it was even okay to hear about me putting a tank and all in my classroom (which she never saw!). But then the day came where I excitedly told her I'd ordered my snake, and then it was more of impending doom.

We worked everything out, and I have my hatchling now. I am hoping that once the snake is calm and feeding, I can take her around to visit some people. My sister really wants to hold her, and hopefully, my SO will warm up to her, and snakes in general, as well. This could be quite an educational experience.

I will be buying my own personal mini-fridge/freezer for frozen fish food, live worms, and mice. I don't think that's too much to ask of me, so I am willing to do it.

Anyway, long winded response- but the point is that these things can be worked out if you don't take the defensive, and don't antagonize. Look at it as an opportunity to educate a non-snake person about snakes, and perhaps eventually to "win them over" to the snakey-side of things.

Good luck!

~Hyp~
 
My wife said "Absolutely no snakes in this house"...so I build a separate snake room(building out back) myself. My son calls it "daddy's house" . Problem solved. :) I have my own freezer out there and that's where the frozen mice go. The only reptile that has been in the house is the bearded dragon that is more like the scaly chihuaha... Now my wife even has her own snake! It's a beautiful ball python she named starbucks...but even starbucks can't come in the house....
 
Well my partner said no more ferrets when we had 6. Now we have 10. Luckily he's just fine with me getting a snake as long as i re-home our fish first, but that's fair do's cos we don't really have the space.

I can imagine if I lived with any of my friends bless 'em or still at home with my dad and stepmum, no way would I be allowed a snake. I think myself very lucky for that.

Most people think I'm odd to want a snake, espcially my friends, but most of them don't like ferrets either, they only like dogs/cats/rabbits/guineapigs - how boring!
 
My wife, age 58, and my daughter, age 19, are both having fits over my decision to finally acquire a few snakes. Now, they both know I kept snakes as a child and they both have lived through my earlier menageries...I had 50 bettas as well as up to 15 big tanks at once....birds from finches to Amazons, 12 adult Himalayans (we had the top blue point in the world in 1995), and up to eight dogs at once. I currently have three dogs, one amazon parrot, and the four snakes (two corns and two kings). I think they have fears of me having six vivs in every room in the house.

I think once they've seen how beautiful and unobtrusive the snakes are, they will come around. As for the frozen mice, I put them in an opaque tupperware container labeled "Dad's Medicine. Don't Touch." I think they know what's in the container, but we're all pretending it's meds. It's called culpable deniability. :)
 
After a year of snake keeping my bf still thinks the snakes are a little bit scary, he touched lilith just once gently, but doesnt want to hold a snake.

At first he was totally against keeping snakes at home, he just dont like them, allthough he thinks they are beautiful and fascinating, but he fears them a bit, a natural fear.

After a good talk and some promises (max.= 2 corns) we agreed on letting me have 2 corns, well now I have 4, and want more :grin01:

Funny thing; his sister and I will go snake-shopping on snakeday 10/8.
She wants a corn too since a couple of months.
And his mum has also some fascination for my corns.

He loves the geckos; 2 of the '06 babies will get their own viv at his room.
 
bill38112 said:
I think once they've seen how beautiful and unobtrusive the snakes are, they will come around. As for the frozen mice, I put them in an opaque tupperware container labeled "Dad's Medicine. Don't Touch." I think they know what's in the container, but we're all pretending it's meds. It's called culpable deniability. :)
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lol...thats great!
 
First of all John; AWESOME avatar! If it would not have been a venomous species, I would have considered it as a tattoo!

About the snake denial thing; my b/fr is not into them, but not afraid of them too. From about the 5th snake he started to complain about space a bit and all the time I spent on them, but I kept on buying though... but when I told him I went to buy nr 12 we had a big fight about it... He did say; ok, go get it and we will talk about it afterwards... then we agreed on 15 snakes max and no vivs outside the one room they are in. It settled down the hussles in our relationship, but I do feel a little sad about this limit sometimes, cause I want to breed more interesting morphs, but I am at 15 snakes now and do not want to sell any to be able to obtain more interesting morphs at the moment... So I hope to negotiate on a new limit; whatever fits into the snake room! Which will provide me with the ability to go up to 19 or even 20 snakes perhaps if I get the help of an spacial expert :rofl: Since I have come down a bit from obsessiveness with feeding days and wanting to handle each of them every day, I do not really spent much more time on 8 then on 15 sankes :rolleyes:
 
I've always wanted a snake and my mother never let me get one because she doesn't like reptiles in general and snakes in particular. After I got married to Tim, I pestered him for three years and he kept saying no. Finally about 2 yrs ago I wised up and said the four magic words: My Mother Hates Snakes. Followed by: If we had a snake mom wouldn't be over so often. 2 wks later we had snake # 1 and now we have over 60 and my mother hasn't stepped foot in the house for little over 2 yrs. Snakes saved our marriage! lol


Jenn
 
lol..... I at least don't feel so alone.
My wife at this point just feels bad for him as he is not eating.
Im gonna try again tommorow night.
 
I should post a positive update here!

I brought my GF to school the other day to see my little hatchling, and once she saw her, she didn't say much. The hatchling was out crawling around the tank, though, and she watched a while.

When I got home, I called her and she said "You know, she's not that bad."

And I said "So do you think you'd like to hold her?" (Previous answer has always been "No. Never."

And she said yes! My snake phobic GF is willing to hold my hatchling!!

*does a happy dance* :crazy02:
 
Hypancistrus said:
I should post a positive update here!

I brought my GF to school the other day to see my little hatchling, and once she saw her, she didn't say much. The hatchling was out crawling around the tank, though, and she watched a while.

When I got home, I called her and she said "You know, she's not that bad."

And I said "So do you think you'd like to hold her?" (Previous answer has always been "No. Never."

And she said yes! My snake phobic GF is willing to hold my hatchling!!

*does a happy dance* :crazy02:
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Yay!!!!! Good for you!
 
I got my first snake last year but I've been wanting one for well over 10 years now

I'm 24 and live with my fiancée for a bit over a year. She knew i've pretty much always wanted a snake but it never really was a topic until about a month ago.

She was against the idea that we have a snake because her mom is absolutely scared of snakes and said she wouldn't walk in our home if she knew we had one. Now her mom is really nice so I would never want that to happen.

Anyway, i was really putting the snake on subject lately and my gf wasn't against having one but only if her mom promised to come even though we had a snake. I installed a shelf in our bedroom where her mom won't be able to see it unless she walks completely inside the room, which she never does. She agreed to that and has actually come to our place since we got him. She doesn't want to see it but I'm sure curiosity will get the best of her at some point!
 
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