Hi Emily (I am sorry if I got that wrong, but I think it's right?? :shrugs: )
I don't want any tough love, just answers in a nice and polite way. Not attacks about who I am or for every LITTLE thing.
I am not here to jump on you. Please understand that I am only trying to help. I answered you, in what I thought, was a very polite and informative way. I think a number of members have tried that approach.
I think your problem is the way you receive that information and respond to it. Normally, what will happen, is a person will ask for advice or an answer. A few members will come on and give, sometimes, varying opinions on how to deal with the scenario. Then the person can take that advice or information and use it, if it's reasonable. No big deal, right?
What I have noticed about you, is that you are dismissive about the things that "
experienced" keepers will tell you. Which is a bit odd. I know when I give advice, it's from tried and true methods, that work for me. What bothers me is if you are going to be dismissive, then why ask the question in the first place?
No one is trying to attack you, just educate or assist you. Your responses can dictate how people perceive you, so remember that. I am sure things will go a lot smoother for you.
After the other thread about killing animals (which was the stupidest discussion EVER) people still judge me and gang up on me about that. So I do not agree everyone starts with a clean slate. Also, think about this. If a newbie comes for advice and gets yelled at and flamed, they are more than likely going to just leave and go on about their ways. If everyone was nice and polite, maybe they would feel really cared for and listen.
By being rude to new members you are actually causing the snakes they own more harm in a way... just a thought.
Now, I was one of, if not the member that was in the "stupidest discussion ever". One of the reasons, that thread, went on and on, was because of your responses. Something that I would consider "back talk" if you were one of my children.
I don't really care how you feel about animals or whatever, but when you air out that sort of thing on a public pet forum, you will feel the heat. Sorry, but that is a no brainer!!
Again, I have read this thread and found myself amazed at some of your responses. I have tried very hard to not respond, harshly. Actually, I responded in a VERY positive manner, hoping to help you out.
I am not coming on here to attack, flame or argue with you. I am just hoping that you will come to understand that it's not necessarily what you do, but how you do it, that counts. Because you are already going to do what you do. AND, it's not about what you say, but how you say it!
I guess that the only real advice I can give you, is to watch how you say the things you say. Just a thought!
I really think that with a little time and some experience, you could become a real valued member of this community. You are intelligent and have an drive to learn, but you are a little thick headed. <~(meant as a term of endearment!)
Good Luck!!!
Wayne