Kokopelli
Resident Boa Fanatic
Isn't it at all possible that there's some measure of... erm... impatience for new people here, not as a general rule, but... lately, due to recent events?
I mean...
I will be honest, some two years ago, I too had a "new one" ripped open because I was new and opinionated(I still am though I would like to think I "grew up" a bit)- in fact, I was the subject of a whole new thread of how awful I was and stuff
What makes this community amazing IMHO is the sincere concern people here have for one another and the joined aspiration to learn and grow.
That can only occur if the doors are kept open... and sometimes... young people who join think they already know alot.
I can tell you from personal experience for instance that I consulted with a vet(with over 20 years of experience) and he "taught" me the following "facts":
1- snakes regularly regurgitate, that's how they dispose of bones and fur from their prey
2- one should bathe his snake on a weekly basis in an iodine and water solution
There were a couple more nonsense which I no longer remember... but at the time, I thought he knew what he was talking about.
People back home instead of explaining why the vet was wrong, simply flamed me to hell and back.
I didn't even argue, I said that a certified vet said so and if they can counter it, I would love to hear why, or be given a link with an explanation.
I too know what it means to become... erm... weary, of new people. It's annoying, they sometimes try to help and hand out the worse advice possible. But that's how they can grow... there's no real alternative.
Those of you who are tired of it... maybe you can simply avoid these threads until you feel you want to help without being too... erm, sharp.
It is obvious that you answer in order to help- I have not the slightest doubt and I can only really applaud how much you all care.
But there's no way around it... when something repeats itself... our patience erodes.
Like it or not, new people will be joining... and I think we should remember that is is in our best interest that they do.
One day they may become major breeders, or a customer of some of you...
I have moderated a forum in Israel for around 3 years... and God help me, the people there seem to be... erm, far more insolent than they are here, to say the least.
I know how annoying it can be...
Look, I really like you guys. All of you.
I have 3 amels, that's it. And yet, this is the forum I spend most of my time in even though BCI's are my real interest.
Why? Because of you... all of you. Don't let yourself wear down because of new people... leave them to those who can be bothered, who are less used to the agonizing routine.
In short, reply in threads which don't set off your nerves immediately.
The more I think about this thread, the more I'm scared that it will look like I am criticizing or lecturing.
I am no different, I too am impatient at times. I just don't want to see this truly fantastic community change because of the strain of a few loud new users...
I hope I made sense,
Oren
I mean...
I will be honest, some two years ago, I too had a "new one" ripped open because I was new and opinionated(I still am though I would like to think I "grew up" a bit)- in fact, I was the subject of a whole new thread of how awful I was and stuff
What makes this community amazing IMHO is the sincere concern people here have for one another and the joined aspiration to learn and grow.
That can only occur if the doors are kept open... and sometimes... young people who join think they already know alot.
I can tell you from personal experience for instance that I consulted with a vet(with over 20 years of experience) and he "taught" me the following "facts":
1- snakes regularly regurgitate, that's how they dispose of bones and fur from their prey
2- one should bathe his snake on a weekly basis in an iodine and water solution
There were a couple more nonsense which I no longer remember... but at the time, I thought he knew what he was talking about.
People back home instead of explaining why the vet was wrong, simply flamed me to hell and back.
I didn't even argue, I said that a certified vet said so and if they can counter it, I would love to hear why, or be given a link with an explanation.
I too know what it means to become... erm... weary, of new people. It's annoying, they sometimes try to help and hand out the worse advice possible. But that's how they can grow... there's no real alternative.
Those of you who are tired of it... maybe you can simply avoid these threads until you feel you want to help without being too... erm, sharp.
It is obvious that you answer in order to help- I have not the slightest doubt and I can only really applaud how much you all care.
But there's no way around it... when something repeats itself... our patience erodes.
Like it or not, new people will be joining... and I think we should remember that is is in our best interest that they do.
One day they may become major breeders, or a customer of some of you...
I have moderated a forum in Israel for around 3 years... and God help me, the people there seem to be... erm, far more insolent than they are here, to say the least.
I know how annoying it can be...
Look, I really like you guys. All of you.
I have 3 amels, that's it. And yet, this is the forum I spend most of my time in even though BCI's are my real interest.
Why? Because of you... all of you. Don't let yourself wear down because of new people... leave them to those who can be bothered, who are less used to the agonizing routine.
In short, reply in threads which don't set off your nerves immediately.
The more I think about this thread, the more I'm scared that it will look like I am criticizing or lecturing.
I am no different, I too am impatient at times. I just don't want to see this truly fantastic community change because of the strain of a few loud new users...
I hope I made sense,
Oren