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I don't quite agree with one of the persons quote on that site..

"Think about this....a teenage mother in school, after birth allows a parent or guardian to become a foster parent of the newborn, then in turn qualifies for government funds for raising the child. So, it is extra income for the family. Simple as that. Its a money making opportunity, nothing more"

If people are having kids to get income into their household thats a whole other pathetic story. Yes, if it happens, the money helps support the family into raising the new child, but if they are taking advantage of it, obviously they aren't using the money towards the kid. I think this will result in an even more messed up community if people are using these advantages to themselves, the kid isn't even the most important thing on their mind. Yes there are good honest teen parents, and families willing to help them get by, I just hope there are more good families that see the child of one of their own compared to those who see an opportunity to get cash.
 
I know a woman that has 2 kids by two different fathers. The fathers pay child support, and she leaves her kids with her mother on weekends, so she can go into the city and party... She also buys a brand new cell phone every 6 months... I know it is not exactly what that person was saying, but there are parents who do that sort of thing and their kids get pushed to the wayside.
 
Outcast said:
I know a woman that has 2 kids by two different fathers. The fathers pay child support, and she leaves her kids with her mother on weekends, so she can go into the city and party... She also buys a brand new cell phone every 6 months... I know it is not exactly what that person was saying, but there are parents who do that sort of thing and their kids get pushed to the wayside.
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My Brother-In-Law came back from Iraq to find out his wife was cheating on him. She now does exactly that. Except both kids are his, but she leaves them with Her mom, My mother-in-law or My brother-in-law when he is in town (he is stationed in Korea atm) and she does nothing more then suck off welfare and try to get every penny she can from my brother-in-law while she parties her butt off. He was back for a few weeks and after he got back he had the kids over and I guess he had to get RID because the kids had a bad case of Lice and she did nothing about it. Its people like her that drive me nuts.
 
Sex Ed IS in schools... it just sucks horribly. After 6th grade, all they do is repeat again and again "sex is bad, pregnancy is bad, even when married it's still bad!"

I've learned more from Wikipedia, porn, books, and my mom's TMI comments than Sex Ed.

On the other hand, I've learned the states absolutely suck for the most part, so I'll stick to pregnant rats. Those freak me out enough, so 6lb baby in my gut? Not in the foreseeable future.
 
Unfortunately, sex ed in this country stinks. They need to not only teach the mechanics and biology, but the responsibilities and financial aspects.
It also doesn't help that in some circles kids are taught that birth control is bad and the "rhythm method" actually works.
 
Basing sex on when the woman is fertile. Unfortunatly it has about a 14% failure rate since a womans cycle is not usually that predictable.
 
sex ed at my school was crap. I learned more when I was in 5th grade at a sleep over with some friends lol.
 
tsst said:
Sorry I had to chuckle at that comment. It's every teenager's nightmare isn't it. :grin01:
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"Your dad uses that Viagra, and he says it turns his peripheral vision purple."
"*kinda chuckles, but is really screaming hysterically inside her head*"

Or another instance.
"Oh, no, the last time your dad and I had sex was a coupe months before your grandma died."

:sidestep:

rexracer said:
And then, for some men (or boys) there's the "trust me, baby, I got this" method.:rolleyes:
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As in "got AIDS/herpes/gonorrhea from unprotected and random sex"? :rolleyes:
 
Isn't that a perk of having teenagers? Being able to make the TMI comments just to gross them out?

I worked as mentor for high risk moms when my daughters were younger. My youngest mom was 12 years old, yes I said 12! Her and the father of the TWINS were both in 6th grade when the babies were born. I vowed that was not going to be my children so I pushed sex ed with all three of my kids so they were not learning incorrect information from their friends. My youngest will be 18 in two months and I am NOT a grandma!

tsst said:
Sorry I had to chuckle at that comment. It's every teenager's nightmare isn't it. :grin01:
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Josie, that's exactly what we plan to do when we become parents. It should NOT be up to schools or state programs to teach children about responsibility. And sex is a responsibility. It's unrealistic to tell kids simply DON'T have sex... because honestly most of us had sex well prior to marriage. Instead, you have to teach them constantly about what sex means, both financially and so far as ways it can change/alter or END their lives. They have to hear these lessons over and over again from people that matter... i.e. their parents.
 
^ You tell a kid not to do something, we do it. /pun intended

And besides, with kids being so tech savvy, they'll figure it out anyway.

josie said:
Isn't that a perk of having teenagers? Being able to make the TMI comments just to gross them out?

I worked as mentor for high risk moms when my daughters were younger. My youngest mom was 12 years old, yes I said 12! Her and the father of the TWINS were both in 6th grade when the babies were born. I vowed that was not going to be my children so I pushed sex ed with all three of my kids so they were not learning incorrect information from their friends. My youngest will be 18 in two months and I am NOT a grandma!
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Let's try 11 years old. (There IS language in this though.)


Fluffee also has a video titled "13 Year Old Dad". Needless to say, I need to say nothing more.
 
Hypancistrus said:
Josie, that's exactly what we plan to do when we become parents. It should NOT be up to schools or state programs to teach children about responsibility. And sex is a responsibility. It's unrealistic to tell kids simply DON'T have sex... because honestly most of us had sex well prior to marriage. Instead, you have to teach them constantly about what sex means, both financially and so far as ways it can change/alter or END their lives. They have to hear these lessons over and over again from people that matter... i.e. their parents.
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And thats the way it should be. There are allot of parents now days leave to much up to the schools to teach there kids when things such as Sex Ed should be taught by the parents. When kids parents are highly involved in there lives they are less likely to get into drugs and pre marital teen pregnancy. Me and my wife had our first child when she was 18 and I was 20, how ever we were already married before she was pregnant. My mom (dad died when I was 13) use to talk about it and it made me very uncomfortable but you knew what, I learned what I really needed to know. Not the same repeated information they had at school. As much as at the time I hated my mom "butting into my life" when I was a teen ager I am glad she did now.

Its better kids learn these things from there parents and learn the CORRECT information. Not the little basic information from school and "myth" like information from there friends. Talk with your kids, and talk often.
 
I learned at 12 that my mother and father both have HIV. I vowed that year to save myself for marriage, and luckily I found my wife, who was also a virgin when we were married.
There are way too many diseases out there to not practice "safe" sex. Even though the safest sex is none at all. I think our country has gone too far down the road of poor choices to teach just abstinence in the schools and home. I will talk to my children like my father talked to me. "I hope that you save yourself for marriage, but if you do have sex, wear protection. I am not going to take care of your child and the chances of disease are much larger now than they were when I was younger. Also, you will have to live the rest of your life knowing that if that relationship does not work out that you have given something special to the wrong person."

As far as I know, that speech only worked on me. I have a brother and a sister, both are married now, and I know my brother regrets his decisions that he made before he got married. I am just guessing about my sister though.
 
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