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zwyatt said:
Proof please. Oh wait...I forgot. This somehow isn't a claim.

Not if their claim is a simple hypothesis or observation. When did I try to publish a paper or write a book on "Human behavior and the influencing affects of other people"? My claim is based on empirical observations. You and I certainly won't have had the same experiences in life, so I can't expect you to be dealing with the same set of observations from which to draw conclusions. Even if we had the same set of experiences, the interpretation could be subjective and the basis for our disagreement.
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Ah, I see your point. I guess you weren't recommending changes in the moderation policies by your 'observations' then. I suppose I misunderstood the nature of your OP.
 
texastailfeathers said:
If I remember correctly, the "nice rack" comment was in reference to a photo of an orangutan and was very obviously a joke. If it wasn't, then that person has more serious issues than we can address here and we should offer him our support and sympathy.

Secondly, many women under the age of 30 refer to themselves as "chicks" and therefore do not find the term offensive. I often refer to myself as a "chick" and I've been known to call my husband a "dude". I do not feel that I am disrespecting myself or my peers by referring to our age group in colloquial terms.

Third (and I know this part wasn't in your post), if a woman finds the discussion of her nipples offensive, then she needs to refrain from mentioning that she has them PIERCED. The same applies to a man who mentions his PA. It's difficult to have that conversation without the word "penis" coming up.

Lastly (for now, anyway), 22-year-olds who post photos of themselves half dressed with a come hither smile and mountains of exposed cleavage do so with the specific intention of being "ogled" (or "oogled"...they both feel really nice). Really. Ask one of them.
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Sad to say but the picture was a picture I posted (of myself) and came after the "rack" remark.
 
I looked back it was post #492 and the 'rack' comment came after and specifically referred to post #492. Not an orangutang.
 
susang said:
So here goes it is not OK to refer to a woman as a "chick"
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I agree and disagree.
I don't enjoy being called a chick, especially because I wrestle so every guy on the team is like "Oh, she's just a chick, she can't wrestle, she's a stick with no muscle!" It's sooo unfair and rude (but it's better when I beat them). But just 'cause I don't like it doesn't mean it's not OK. People have different opinions; but at least it's not a cuss word.
:)
 
Roy Munson said:
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At least sexual harassment is fun.>>

I know you meant this as a joke, so I'm sure that you're aware that it isn't fun for everyone.
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Is it awful that my first response to this post was "Well, then they obviously weren't doing it right."??? :shrugs: :grin01: :shrugs:
 
Nova_C said:
Ah, I see your point. I guess you weren't recommending changes in the moderation policies by your 'observations' then. I suppose I misunderstood the nature of your OP.
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Not forum moderation policy. Maybe self-moderation or "peer-moderation". Basically, I just feel like we could do with less of the behaviors I described in the OP and the reason is [insert your own personal motives here]. Because it isn't necessary that everyone agree with what I believe just that they feel the same general way. :)
 
diamondlil said:
And if anyone was offended enough to report this, then it would have been acted upon.
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Well, I have it on good authority that somebody brought it to the mod's collective attention. ;) And then there's this thread...
 
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diamondlil said:
And if anyone was offended enough to report this, then it would have been acted upon.
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Actually Janine the mods were called in long before this comment both Dean and Susan made comments about content of the thread, it got worse. So why would anyone bother to report it???
 
susang said:
Actually Janine the mods were called in long before this comment both Dean and Susan made comments about content of the thread, it got worse. So why would anyone bother to report it???
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Someone giving the mods a heads-up about a thread doesn't obligate us to read every word posted in the thread before or after the heads-up. Please don't assume that we're monitoring everything. If you have a problem with a particular post, report it. Of course, frivolous reports are discouraged.
 
Roy Munson said:
Someone giving the mods a heads-up about a thread doesn't obligate us to read every word posted in the thread before or after the heads-up. Please don't assume that we're monitoring everything. If you have a problem with a particular post, report it. Of course, frivolous reports are discouraged.
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Of course I would never expect you to, but since you and Susan had already commented in the thread about sexual overtones and it got worse, why would you burdened further. (of course there was the stupid 3 yo thread yesterday for which I apologize, but then laughed at myself) I don't think the solution is the mods. I think some of us just have to use better judgement, me included.
 
I don't mind judicious use of implied (#^%$) or real profanity. Sometimes, it is a lot more meaningful to say something is "f*&^ing ridiculous" than to say it is "very, very, very, very, absurdly ridiculous." I like my profanity to be judicious because otherwise it loses its meaning. Just like if I used "very" to modify everything, it would lose its meaning. The level of cursing here doesn't bother me.

zwyatt said:
The problem is that the things of late are on a whole different level. Someone saying "How you doin'?" is not the same thing as someone saying "I'd hit it."
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But I definitely agree with this 100%. "How YOU doin'?" is akin to saying, "I think you are attractive." No one minds hearing that. "I'd hit it" is objectifying and therefore degrading. That phrase is only three words long and manages to objectify and degrade in two different ways by referring to the person as "it" and to the sexual act as "hitting" (plus, it implies that the person doing the "hitting" has not been invited to do so). If someone ever said that in reference to a photo of me, I would hurl in my cereal (and then chew someone a new one, and report it to the mods). Of course, the odds of that are very slim, because I do not post photos of my wife and I wearing clothes and doing things that would elicit that response. I've got cleavage-revealing photos of us making out at parties just like everyone else; but I don't post them on the internet, and I make sure my friends don't post them, either.
 
desertanimal said:
I don't mind judicious use of implied (#^%$) or real profanity. Sometimes, it is a lot more meaningful to say something is "f*&^ing ridiculous" than to say it is "very, very, very, very, absurdly ridiculous." I like my profanity to be judicious because otherwise it loses its meaning. Just like if I used "very" to modify everything, it would lose its meaning. The level of cursing here doesn't bother me.
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Like, I, like totally agree with EVERYTHING here. Like, totally.

regards,
jazz
 
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