bekers71
What addiction?!
I like to think of my self as a kind person. I would give you my last dollar if you needed it and not hound you to give it back. We don't have much money. Matter of fact my husband is on unemployment right now and can't find a job. I have a total of 5 kids in the house, all boys. We go to a store they hold doors, say excuse me, most the time walk in a single file line as to stay out of peoples way. They answer ma'am and sir to adults. But don't think we are too hard on them. They get almost every thing they want, in time. My kids are in no way perfect and we don't expect them to be. They get in trouble just like any other kid. We do, however, expect them to respect others, them selves and other peoples property.
Now to why I started all this. I bought a house 3 yrs ago across town, 1/2 mile from me. It was before I met my husband. I was in the process of divorce had 2 children and living with my parents. Very rough time in my life. The house is old. It was filled with trash, spray painted walls and broken windows. There were no doors or plumbing. The floors needed to be jacked up and 40 yrs of wall paper scraped off the walls and ceiling. This is just a sample of things to do. But hey, it was $6,000 and contract for deed. I do all my own work and only paid 2 people, one for the floors and one for the plumbing. It's not near being finished yet. But I have worked very hard with the occasional help from my parents.
In 3 yrs I have never had any trouble over there. That all changed when the guy who rented the house next door moved out. It was then rented to another man who has two sons. These boys are very well known in town for bad behavior. They are even suspected in starting a house fire a couple months ago leaving a man homeless. They are rude and mean. They used to live down the street from where I am now with their mother. You could hear them cursing and yelling at her.
Any way- I go over to my house yesterday to find trash all beside my house, the side closest to them. Windows upstairs and downstairs all busted. These had already been replaced. Inside the house things had been messed with and broken. I am thinking "What the he**! Why would some one do this?". So I go to the man that rents the house out and tell him what I found. He acts like its not a big deal. Matter of fact he kind of laughed. Tells me to talk to the dad and asked me if I filed a police report. Before I go any further I want to say we live in a small town. By small I mean 1200 people. Every one knows every body and you last name will determine what happens to you. These kids grandpa is on the city council. Get my point? So I tell the man that there has never been any trouble over there until they moved in. Still acting like he don't care, I left. Now I am not angry. I am livid! I call the police,which is the mayors house by the way. He takes my name and calls the city cop for me. I meet with him at the house. He checks out the damage and asked me what I would like to do. He says hes pretty sure it was the boys next door because they did 3 other houses over the weekend and got caught. I told him I felt like those boys need to be taught a lesson and it was time for them to stop getting by with wrong doings. When he knows for sure they did it, they have 2 options. They will either pay for the damages or I WILL file charges against them! I don't care who they are!
Unfortunately I don't have the money to fix the windows. Now the rain, snow and stray animals are going to damage things that I have in there and stuff I have already fixed.
So after my ranting the question is this-Why don't parents care? This country relies on our children to do what is right in the future. Do parents not want their kids to be productive and respectful citizens? Its hard for kids like mine to understand why they get in trouble for not sharing the game cube and kids like those boys get by with every thing. Where do we draw the line and make kids and parents accountable for their actions?
Sorry about the venting-was just upset.
Now to why I started all this. I bought a house 3 yrs ago across town, 1/2 mile from me. It was before I met my husband. I was in the process of divorce had 2 children and living with my parents. Very rough time in my life. The house is old. It was filled with trash, spray painted walls and broken windows. There were no doors or plumbing. The floors needed to be jacked up and 40 yrs of wall paper scraped off the walls and ceiling. This is just a sample of things to do. But hey, it was $6,000 and contract for deed. I do all my own work and only paid 2 people, one for the floors and one for the plumbing. It's not near being finished yet. But I have worked very hard with the occasional help from my parents.
In 3 yrs I have never had any trouble over there. That all changed when the guy who rented the house next door moved out. It was then rented to another man who has two sons. These boys are very well known in town for bad behavior. They are even suspected in starting a house fire a couple months ago leaving a man homeless. They are rude and mean. They used to live down the street from where I am now with their mother. You could hear them cursing and yelling at her.
Any way- I go over to my house yesterday to find trash all beside my house, the side closest to them. Windows upstairs and downstairs all busted. These had already been replaced. Inside the house things had been messed with and broken. I am thinking "What the he**! Why would some one do this?". So I go to the man that rents the house out and tell him what I found. He acts like its not a big deal. Matter of fact he kind of laughed. Tells me to talk to the dad and asked me if I filed a police report. Before I go any further I want to say we live in a small town. By small I mean 1200 people. Every one knows every body and you last name will determine what happens to you. These kids grandpa is on the city council. Get my point? So I tell the man that there has never been any trouble over there until they moved in. Still acting like he don't care, I left. Now I am not angry. I am livid! I call the police,which is the mayors house by the way. He takes my name and calls the city cop for me. I meet with him at the house. He checks out the damage and asked me what I would like to do. He says hes pretty sure it was the boys next door because they did 3 other houses over the weekend and got caught. I told him I felt like those boys need to be taught a lesson and it was time for them to stop getting by with wrong doings. When he knows for sure they did it, they have 2 options. They will either pay for the damages or I WILL file charges against them! I don't care who they are!
Unfortunately I don't have the money to fix the windows. Now the rain, snow and stray animals are going to damage things that I have in there and stuff I have already fixed.
So after my ranting the question is this-Why don't parents care? This country relies on our children to do what is right in the future. Do parents not want their kids to be productive and respectful citizens? Its hard for kids like mine to understand why they get in trouble for not sharing the game cube and kids like those boys get by with every thing. Where do we draw the line and make kids and parents accountable for their actions?
Sorry about the venting-was just upset.
