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CrAzYJoEe

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My dad said I can get a corn so I asked the people at pjcreptiles to put a normal that I saw on hold for me.

My mom got mad and said if I get the snake, they are getting devoriced, we are moving upstate, and I can come down here to vist my snake.

So, I will keep coming to this site and read as much as possible about corns for the next 5 years lol. When Im 18, I move out and I can get a corn. :sobstory:


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Hehehe if you serious about what your mum said..
Im sure she is just having a joke with you because she is probably really scared of snakes and dosnt want you to get one...

Just do a bit more research and show her that they make good pets and are easy to keep etc..
You never know she might just come round to the idea ..

My mum hated it when i got my 1st snake when i was 14 and told me i could go live with my dad etc if i brought it home....IM NOT SAYING DO IT !!!! but i brought it home anyway :grin01: but after a month or so she got used to it but just didnt want be near it or in the same room when i got it out haha

Now ive left home a few years she wants another one in the house :shrugs:

Like i say .. Do some research and if she sees you know what your talking about and are prepared to take on the responsibilty that comes with keeping a snake.. ( or any other pet ) she just may come round ..

A. Devil
 
I already tried to show her that snakes are good pets and that I know what I'm talking about. But as soon as she hears the word snake she just ignores me or tells me to leave and shut up... :(
 
Well in that case try not to bring the subject up too much..
Maybe your dad will have a chat with her if he knows you really want one and she may change her mind but if she is being this way just dont mention it if you can help it ...
Because believe me, If she dosnt really like the idea now and you keep on at her about it , It will really do her head in and she will never give in to the idea...

All i can say is be patient and bide your time, Dont go on at her about it ( not much anyway if you help it hehe )
I mean she knows you want one and so does your dad and its not %100 NO YOUR NOT HAVING ONE !! so you still have a 50/50 chance of getting one..
Let your dad talk her round ,

I wish you the best of luck on getting a corn :)

A. Devil
 
My mom was the exact same way about snakes. As soon as she heard me mention them, she would start yelling at me and telling me how disrespectful and rude and selfish I am. My dad was indifferent, but since my mom didn't want them, he couldn't tell me I can have them either.

So the way I went about it was, I caught a wild garter snake about a year ago. It was pretty much to "test out" the situation. Worst case scenario: I might have to release the little guy. Well it turns out, my mom was so fed up about me talking about snakes all the time, she just let that one "slide". And after a couple months, she became pretty tolerant. And since I already had some money saved up from my job, I said I would pay for the snake and all of its expenses. And the rest is history :grin01:
 
I just started talking to my mom about it. I think she is considering it. I told her all she will have to do is sign for it and she will never see it again. She will just have the memory of the box it was in. :rolleyes:
 
That's quite a change from divorce and moving away! I'd say things are looking up. Don't hound her about it too much and hopefully she'll come through for you. Good luck and don't forget the pics when you do get one.
 
CrAzYJoEe said:
My mom is afraid of them, and thats their only reason :(
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Well what you can do it get the Kathy Love books and just start reading them. Show your pop and talk to your mom as in.. did you know this?? start teaching her about them. Give her information and slowly let her know about the snakes and make her interested. If you have a Zoo near you, ask to go and then look at the snakes and see how your mom acts. give her facts and see if she remembers some of your other facts. Conquer Fear with Knowledge.
 
CrAzYJoEe said:
My mom is afraid of them, and thats their only reason :(
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At least you got a reason!

I've been asking to get a snake since I was 12 or 13- and they always said no. "This is MY home and I don't want it here." That was my mom's reason.
 
My wife was the same way with the irrational fear. She was very upset when I accepted a snake from my neighbor, but I got tired of her crap a long time ago. You know the nagging, being a pain in the ass to get her way crap. In short, I decided to keep the snake and if she wanted to leave, that was her decision. It was either that or live the rest of my life with her hijacking our family to do whatever she wanted with it with me not having much of a say at all. :puke01: *I don't recommend this action for any man unless he is willing to live with the consequences. It can't be a bluff. LOL*

To get back on topic, I now have four snakes. :) Since I really do love my wife, I have made sure to house them in esthetically pleasing vivs. She didn't like the Sterylite containers. :shrugs:

She actually likes to watch them eat, but she still runs when I take them out and the kids have great fun following her around the house with a snake begging her to hold it. :grin01:

I sure hope your mom loosens up a little and lets you have a snake, but I am really not sure how you should go about getting one.

John
 
Here's a plan that may get you somewhere~

Clean the bathroom (makes mom happy~ do a good job) leave your copy of the Cornsnake manual on the bathroom counter or wherever your parents may spy it while using the nice clean facility.

Clean the kitchen (makes mom happy~ do a good job) leave a copy of the cornsnake newsletter on the kitchen table where your parents may spy it while preparing their next meal

Do chores you know will make your mother think "Wow~ how very helpful" and leave snake positive literature everywhere you've done something to make her happy with you.

Be very careful to not leave your literature lying around close to anything that might annoy her~ finding your snake book lying next to your dirty socks on the living room sofa does not indear her to the idea that you are responsible enough to take care of an animal she is frightened may escape from you.

Keep it up for a couple months. Positive reinforcement and exposure to your literature~ THEN ask her to talk to you.
 
JM :o) said:
Here's a plan that may get you somewhere~

Clean the bathroom (makes mom happy~ do a good job) leave your copy of the Cornsnake manual on the bathroom counter or wherever your parents may spy it while using the nice clean facility.

Clean the kitchen (makes mom happy~ do a good job) leave a copy of the cornsnake newsletter on the kitchen table where your parents may spy it while preparing their next meal

Do chores you know will make your mother think "Wow~ how very helpful" and leave snake positive literature everywhere you've done something to make her happy with you.

Be very careful to not leave your literature lying around close to anything that might annoy her~ finding your snake book lying next to your dirty socks on the living room sofa does not indear her to the idea that you are responsible enough to take care of an animal she is frightened may escape from you.

Keep it up for a couple months. Positive reinforcement and exposure to your literature~ THEN ask her to talk to you.
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A very logical and positive way to go about it...
I wish I had read something like that when I was a child.
Have you ever used this strategy yourself...!? How successful was it...?!
 
Well~ something like it.

We have a new puppy. I bought puppy books. I'd like my husband and teenage sons to read the books. They won't. So...........

It's my job to clean the bathroom. I clean the bathroom~ and I set a puppy book to the page I want them to learn on the laundry hamper directly in front of the throne........

It's amazing how much of the puppy books they have read! LOL!

Combine that trick with the positive reinforcement I'm reading about in the puppy books~ and it makes sense that a pleased parent (pleased because of a clean space or a well done chore) who is doing something that might leave a little free reading time (on the throne~ or waiting for the popcorn to pop) will look more positively on the reading material that is conveniently placed to find.
 
JM :o) said:
Well~ something like it.

We have a new puppy. I bought puppy books. I'd like my husband and teenage sons to read the books. They won't. So...........

It's my job to clean the bathroom. I clean the bathroom~ and I set a puppy book to the page I want them to learn on the laundry hamper directly in front of the throne........

It's amazing how much of the puppy books they have read! LOL!

Combine that trick with the positive reinforcement I'm reading about in the puppy books~ and it makes sense that a pleased parent (pleased because of a clean space or a well done chore) who is doing something that might leave a little free reading time (on the throne~ or waiting for the popcorn to pop) will look more positively on the reading material that is conveniently placed to find.
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All I have to say is...
OUTSTANDING LOGIC... the limits are endless...!!!
 
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