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Advice? I think

Phoeb

Phoeb

Captain Awesome
As I am planning on joining the army this year, I have a dilema. If I succesfully pass the selection which I am currently training for, I will deffinatly be joining for a career. My dilema is I wont be around to care for my corn. My parents say they will feed it and such, but I want them do it because they want to and not because they have to. I would very much rather it go to a home were it will be cared for by an enthusiast who actually wants to. Obviously I would see it when I come home for weekends or whatever. If/when I pass all training and join my selected corps I would see it MUCH less than just every other weekend...

Argh I reallllyy want to keep him :( but dont want to neglect him....
 
Most snakes like to be 'neglected'
Feeding and that is all they really need....
Everything else is for our benefit, on the most part.
How involved are your folks willing to get?
Maybe you could get them on here.
 
snakewispera snr said:
Most snakes like to be 'neglected'
Feeding and that is all they really need....
Everything else is for our benefit, on the most part.
How involved are your folks willing to get?
Maybe you could get them on here.
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I'm with Mike on this... if they are willing to feed the snake for you, then there is a good chance they will learn to love it like you do :) It's what happened to me.
 
They just said they will feed it. I just want them to be a little more enthusiastic about it, you know?
Also my mom doesnt really like him, shes more "look" than "feel". My father said he wouldnt have chose a snake for a pet.
I want them to "want" to do it.
 
Phoeb said:
They just said they will feed it. I just want them to be a little more enthusiastic about it, you know?

I want them to "want" to do it.
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You can't make them "want" to do it. I think it's cool that they have volunteered to do it. I know that my mom would have said no way, no how, if she had even let me through the front door with one.

I wanted nothing to do with snakes when my daughter wanted one. We ended up with a non-feeder. I was feeling guilty at the thought of my daughter's birthday present dying and that it would make me a terrible parent that I searched for a reptile vet (not easy to find - took six calls and references from numerous vets to find one) to figure out what was wrong with the dang thing and fix "it" so my daughter wouldn't be upset. Took me three months or was it two, and I was buying my own, forced to by the daughter as she was tired of me calling her snake my snake :) Kieran and I have been together for almost seven years now and he's been joined by five more.

My daughter's first snake died a couple of years ago and then she claimed a little Sunglow that I bought. It escaped and my daughter hasn't had a desire for another one. Me, I'm having to slap my hands now, esp. since I'm waiting on three more from Dean and couple of others from board members. I may to finally pack my daughter's room up and turn it into my snake room :D
 
I've taken on a rehomer before, who was left with the parents. Sounds like a similar situation. The ndaughter (and owner) took off around the world with a view to settling abroad and the parents said they'd keep the Corn. They weren't really interested, but offered as a favour, because the daughter didn't want to let it go elsewhere at that time.

Two years later, they wanted to move house and decided to rehome on the grounds that they really weren't that interested and no longer had room for the viv. The Corns had been looked after - properly fed & cleaned out - just not handled. It was pretty wild and the parents had a huge guilt trip about rehoming it after they'd promised to take care of it.

Long ramble, but based on that, I'd say that you should rehome yours now (or when you get the OK to join up), and be satisfied in your own mind that its long-term future is secure to the best of your ability.
 
Will your parents be able to handle the snake if they need to- to clean the viv, for an emergency vet visit, things like that?
 
Once sold, you can't get THAT snake back again, but plans for the future are open to change :shrugs:
 
Nanci said:
Will your parents be able to handle the snake if they need to- to clean the viv, for an emergency vet visit, things like that?
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My mother wont, but my father would. A friend has said she would happily look after him for me and she has a corn of her own, which is a plus. I'll see how things pan out.
 
My snakes live at work with me. Last year I was on maternity leave, and long story short, decided not to go back to that job. My mother took in my snakes against her better judgement as a temporary fix until I could take them back. She didn't really like them, but agreed to feed them, and clean their viv.
4 months later, I was ready to take them back, and she wanted to keep them! She's been researching, and learning. She's been handling them, and calling with updates often. It turned out she was sad to see them go!
I'm waiting for my female to lay eggs. My mom has already preclaimed 2 hatchlings of her own.
Maybe your parents just need time to get used to them :)
 
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