I will wholeheartedly admit, I was loathe to touch snakes...I only remember touching one once before, in Brownies, when I was about 7 & I touched a boa constrictor. It took for everyone else to touch her before I finally would...since then, I became a 2nd gr teacher and soon discovered that I have to be open to all the gross things that I once shirked...granted, I do a lot more than most 2nd gr teachers will do, but how do I expect my kids to not be afraid if I am? So, I battled my insect fear -- we did the darkling beetle life cycle (mealworms) -- and soon all of my kids were holding mealworms like nothing at all, and now snakes.
When I brought my Maizie home, I was nervous to take her out of her tank, but I knew that if I didn't, she'd lose any tolerance for me holding her, and I want a snake that will sit as comfortably around my shoulders as I saw on a little 3-year old girl at my local herp society meeting.

I figured, if a 3-year old can do it, so can I!

Also, I know that animals can sense fear, so I have to *force* confidence from myself...I just try to keep my hand's approach as smooth as I can toward the snake, with the idea in mind that it doesn't have the best eye sight, so I try to imitate how I've seen other snake owners handle their snakes (obviously, herp society members!).
If it strikes, it strikes -- whoop de doo. My cats have bitten me, my leopard geckos have bitten me, in fact, when baby-sitting, kids have bitten me. I'd rather be bitten by a snake than a kid, in all fairness! However, today I was marvelling at how much like silk it felt to have the snake move about between my fingers and on my hands...it's fascinating.

To watch it, to really examine its body...wow.
Part of my "fear" is still there; I don't want to be bitten, but I also understand that should it happen, it's simply a natural response on the snake's behalf to protect itself...and I live & learn, and hopefully it won't happen again. In fact, it will make me more determined to not repeat the same mistake...I know that I have a long way toward getting a snake to sit comfortably on my shoulders, but with my lil'guy (or girl, who knows yet), I'm just going to keep trying.

You really will be missing out on the best part of the snake if you don't try. Sure, they're beautiful, but to actually be able to touch it & have it trust you? That's more than amazing to me.
Good luck.
Christina