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Help me convince my mom... Please :)

Make her hold one thats the only way. Females gotta touch it to not be afraid of it. If it bites her no chance in "it" happening.

Live by that my friend and life will be good.
 
I didn't like snakes either...wasn't scared of them anymore, but did NOT want anything to do with them. My daughter asked for one for her 13th birthday. It was the only thing she asked for in the 8 months prior to that 13th birthday. I got her book finally, told to read it cover to cover and make a list of the things that she would need. She also went to my sister's house, where I had a niece who was into reptiles (Still is and works for the big wholesaler out in California - Quality Reptiles(?)). I made sure that she knew that she was going to be able to care for it and esp. feed it.

She came back with all my requirements met. So for her 13th birthday off to the store we went... I've learned from that mistake :( Bought her a lovely, beautiful little ghost female, I ended up naming Lady G (Ghost) since she couldn't seem to come up with a name that she liked. Unfortunately or fortunately, she ended up being a non-feeder and in a panic over the thought that I would be a terrible mother because *I* let her *only* birthday present die, that I was on the phone with that pet store, other pet store and then tracing down a reptile vet...

The vet did the trick and she lived until she was almost 6. She had issues that I believe trace back to those early days, but I couldn't prove it. As it was, she talked me into buying my own snake when we stopped at Tinley Park because I had called her snake my snake one too many times. I know have six with 3 or 4 more on the agenda and she's down to none :)

Don't be obnxious, but show your mom that you are serious about this and its not another phase you are going through... esp. if you are prone to phases :) Might start buying the equipment you need to show her that you are serious about taking care of it. It's all stuff that could be stored away if she doesn't back down until the day you have your own place and can buy one anyway :)

Good luck
 
The wrath of a mother is nothing to be wreckoned with!

Ummm..if your Mom is anything like my Mom was when I was a teenager, I would adise against that. If you bring a snake home and she has already told you no that may make it a DEFINATE NO. Had I brought something home anyway that my Mom had already told me not to I would immediately be told to return it to wherever I got it from. You may still have an opportunity if you act responsibly about this. You dont want to ruin any posibility you may actually have with defying your mother. The wrath of a mother is not to be wreckoned with! LOL:devil01:
 
kcaven said:
Ummm..if your Mom is anything like my Mom was when I was a teenager, I would adise against that. If you bring a snake home and she has already told you no that may make it a DEFINATE NO. Had I brought something home anyway that my Mom had already told me not to I would immediately be told to return it to wherever I got it from. You may still have an opportunity if you act responsibly about this. You dont want to ruin any posibility you may actually have with defying your mother. The wrath of a mother is not to be wreckoned with! LOL:devil01:
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Yup, my mom was that way and that's the way I would have done with my daughter. Although I didn't say no, I just made her prove that it was not just a flash-in-the-pan thing.
 
allmote said:
Make her hold one thats the only way. Females gotta touch it to not be afraid of it.
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Strangely enough, in my experience, it's the GUYS who are weirder about snakes.

I have met several women/girls who are nervous of snakes right up to panicky can't-look-at-photos phobic; all of them have shown some level of desire to work with their fear - the one who couldn't look at a photograph has worked with it to a point that she can actually look at a fairly large snake in a cage across the room now although the idea of seeing one up close is still scary. Most of the just-nervous ones, as long as you control the pointy end, will touch and be surprised at "hey, it's not slimy or nasty at all" and in my experience come away thinking "that was pretty cool."

But the phobic/nervous MEN... well, the first problem is that they feel like they've got to be all macho about it. "I'm not scared of a snake, I just don't like them." No, when I see you giving me freaky scared-chimpanzee face, whether or not you realise it, the big pupils and the stance you're giving me says you're trying not to poo yourself. And most of them are NOT willing to work with it either.
 
I agree :) The male owner of the barn where I keep my horse will kill on sight any snakes he sees, but I'm working with another gal to co-exist with a black snake that is checking out her barn... although if it doesn't stay out of her tack room (at least off the counter), the thing's life may be limited :) I just keep reminding her that she's too big even with ketchup to make a yummy dinner and they don't bite... and they do keep the mice/rats down that love to chew on the most expensive leather things in the tackroom.....
 
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