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How do you guys feel....?

carolinacorn69

carolinacorn69

Corn, King & Royals
What do you guys think about a 20 year old dating a 15 year old? As long as nothing "naughty" goes on do you still think its wrong?:shrugs:
 
Well if it was a 20 and a 25 year old, that would be different. Its not the year difference, its that the younger person just isn't on the same level as the 20 year old.
So I would have to say, I don't approve.
 
Even if the world accepts the idea, the maturity and interests will likely differ and make it a dificult endeavor. Personally I have always played by the 3 year rule for younger girls. If I was 20, I wouldn't date lower than 17, and at 24, I won't date younger than 21.

Best wishes mate.
 
Normally I think age is age however there are laws, at least here in the US, not sure over there. Plus there are grade levels to think about. Now, I'm not sure which way it is going but a 20 year old female that is dating a 15 year old in my eyes is looking for something. If your a 20 year old male dating a 15 year old female shame on you for stealing from the crib. If you are a male I'm not sure what you would find in a 15 year old that you could not find in a 20 year old.

If you don't mind do you think you could explain a little more?
 
Well.
Shes extremly mature for her age. Ive known her since she was 13 and shes always been mature but shes on the same wave length as me and my mates now. My mates range from 16 to 35 and we're all as daft as each other. Shes my best mates sister who has no problem with us being together and her parents have no problem. Im just worried what people will think of me.
Nothing will happen until shes legal in that sense but people might assume we are and think less of me.
I cant help how i feel about her, I dont look at her as a young girl, shes one of us. The age is just a real shame in this instance.
 
carolinacorn69 said:
Well.
Shes extremly mature for her age. Ive known her since she was 13 and shes always been mature but shes on the same wave length as me and my mates now. My mates range from 16 to 35 and we're all as daft as each other. Shes my best mates sister who has no problem with us being together and her parents have no problem. Im just worried what people will think of me.
Nothing will happen until shes legal in that sense but people might assume we are and think less of me.
I cant help how i feel about her, I dont look at her as a young girl, shes one of us. The age is just a real shame in this instance.
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i think its all down to maturity aswell, personally i wouldnt, but i wouldnt think less of some one for it, as long as there was a genuine reason, and not justthat the older person is looking for things. im sure time will be the judge, if it works then i dont see the problem, some of my friends are a lot older than me, i really dont think age is that big of an issue (with limits lol)
 
Well are you sure it's just not respect for her? There is a fine line between it and feelings for a person and at times they are confusing to understand from each other.

I'm going to guess that you can drive and have a car while she does not. So you will become the taxi driver. You also have to think about the fact that she is in school and has friends there. You don't know what she will do while she is there. Plus even though she is mature for her age it means she had given something up for it which will come up. I understand you guys hang out which each other and such but the way she acts around you and the guys may not be how she wants to be. Us girls have many faces.
 
well, she hates school and basically cant cope there. shes way above anyone in her school on maturity levels.
and her mom is a good mate of mine also and she talks to me about her and how she is around us guys is her. around us she feels the most comfortable.
im worried about what people will think if i date her, but i also dont want to give up something that could be perfect. we make each other really happy and i dont want to lose her because of her age.
 
It's your life and it's her life, but I know what my opinion would be if it was my 15 yr old daughter and it's not good. Why can't you find someone your own age?

I can almost guarantee you that you will "lose" her eventually... she hasn't even had a chance to live yet. And you can say that nothing will happen, but that gets said all the time and guess what... things happen and teenage girls end up pregnant. It's called hormones.
 
If you feel that strongly, could you wait another couple of years? 17 and 22 somehow wouldn't feel like such an issue for me. No matter how mature a 15 year old appears, there is still some life experience that's missing. Perhaps once she's finished with school and started college or work, this will come.

And are you absolutely certain that the feeling's mutual? Has she given you reason to think that your feelings are reciprocated?
 
i know what you mean.
i'll be leaving it a while anyway.
its not that i dont want someone my own age, believe me, i wish she was my age, would be alot easier. she just makes me happy.
i spose its difficult for anyone to give an opinion unless you know us both. but yeah. im just gonna see what happens.

and believe me. i wont be doing anything until she's legal. im not the average 20 year old lad believe it or not. nothings happened yet and we've liked each other a while now.
 
If you are asking us then there is something holding you back. I think you should just hold on to the friendship but not her. She is going to grow up and leave one day, you can't change that. I think that you really should look for someone else.

I can tell you from having dated an 18 year old at 15 it's hard. So many things were on his mind that were not on mine. I made mistakes and now I can't fix them because I did them and now I'm stuck with my past. She and you may think thats it's right and that no matter what you'll only do things if both of you are ready but Ginger is right, things happen. You'll get caught up in the moment and then you'll have it hanging over your head.

Enjoy your friendship with her.
 
ill never lose the friendship being so close to her family, so, i'll leave it for now and see what happens in the future.
 
I don't think it's for me to approve other peoples' relationships, and I don't think it matters if people think less of you or not. If it will make you both happy, and it is legal and harmless, should a few frowns of disapproval really hold you back?

If she's 15 now, that's less than three years until she becomes a legal adult anyway. If you're not sure, why not just wait a while? If the feelings are still there even after a wait then it would definetly be worth giving it a try.

I don't know... I don't think this is something anyone can decide for you. It's legal, and harmless, so it's pretty much just down to what you feel is best. :shrugs:
 
The other side is what do you gain that you don't already have?

I'd say stay friends until she has a chance to grow up a bit. She may be mature, but it doesn't mean she is wise.

Wisdom very rarely comes from anything other than age.
 
Jcapicy said:
She may be mature, but it doesn't mean she is wise.

Wisdom very rarely comes from anything other than age.
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Is this necessary for a relationship to form?

I'm not necessarily disagreeing, by the way - just throwing a thought out there. :)
 
To be honest. Im liking what Plissken is saying. Ive really never been happier and neither has she so as long as we keep it legal why cant we give it a try.

Im asking on here just to get as many opinions as possible. Its a big deal really. I just dont want people thinking things of me that are not true at all.
 
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