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I'm confused

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bataco

Daniel
I need your help.... I've been with my girl for 3 years now and I love her very much it's just that in the last few months I've been feeling confused like I want to go out more with my friends alone without her, when I'm with her I have a good time but for a strange reason when she says something or do something I don't like I just get angry very easily, Like I get desperate easily with her.... I don't know why.... It makes me think that I'm not sure how i feel about her, that I don't have the same fun that I had before, what do you think it might be? :(
 
Do you live with your girlfriend? It could be that you two are spending so much time around each other that your starting to crave some alone time for yourself and to be with your friends..I myself am suffering from that as well..I see my boyfriend everyday..so I have lately started to become very irratible and not have as much fun with him as I used to...So lately I've been hanging out with my friends a little bit more..We've spoken about it and have agreed on days where it will be us and then days where we will be with our friends or families..and it's been working okay since then...hope this helps..
 
You're 18 and have had a steady girlfriend for the past 3 years...no wonder you're going crazy! You have absolutely no idea what dating another girl is even like. Take it from someone old enough to be your mother...both you and your girlfriend need time away from each other and to date many other people. If you still love each other in 5 years, than you can think about making your relationship last.
 
I don't live with her but that's what I thought and when i thought about that I was excited with the idea, I told her I wanted Fridays to be with my friends and she got upset but I think that's the best solution (beside My craving for other girls like every human being has) I'll tell her I need that "time" I know she'll be upset but you're right, I don't have same fun that I had before, be excited when I'm going to see her and not get irritable with every thing she says
 
Susan said:
years...no wonder you're going crazy! You have absolutely no idea what dating another girl is even like. .
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you're right and I really want to feel what is like but I just can't think about breaking up with her.... I don't wnt to last 5 years.... I want to date with more people but I'm not ready to leave her.... because I know I love her argh! what would be the best choice?
 
I'm with Susan, you've got to know who you are before you can share that with someone else.
I think sometimes the irritability comes from people's own uncertainty in their feelings for the other person. The best thing for that is to bring it out in the open.
 
Yeah, like discuss it with your girlfriend, might not turn out like you wanted, but it might just make things better. Chances are if you are feeling different about your relationship she is too.
 
she does.... she sent me an email telling me I had changed but then she told me It was nothing.... I don't know what I will tell her =S When we started I was more into her than she was into me and now it's different... my necessity of dating other girls is really going around my head all day
 
well.. i had a girlfriend.. we dated along time.. best relationship ive had. we broke up.. dated some other people.. and now we are talking again. so i mean its possible. i didnt like the hole break up thing. but hopefully it works out for the best. if you really do love her.. im sure you will realize it when you try to date other people. you'll prolly think of her alot or miss her.. so.. go ahead and try it.. and try to be nice to her.. so liek she doesnt completely hate your guts.
 
maybe she will agree... i don't know when I think of her going out with other people I feel bad, that's when I know I love her
 
tell her u feel that maybe u two should take some time to clear both your minds and re-evaluate your options...if its truely meant to be that your meant to be with her then it will happen...but you both need the chance to see what else is out there...
 
Okay, I gotta say I'm a little uncomfortable giving relationship advice, I dated constantly until I was about 29-30, never had a long term(til now).
That being said, I just think it's got to be honest, full disclosure, if you're really going to share your life with someone.
 
Not if you don't want it to be...It's just time off...I guess like maybe a temporary break up..so that you and her both can see other people..and see what else is out there..Like I said..If it truely is meant to be then things will work out that way and you two will come together again..

On a side note...If you told her you need time to yourself and she got upset about it then you really need to talk with her about your needs..If she isn't willing to give you time to be with your friends or have time to yourself..then the relationship will definitely get worse..
 
take the time.. i mean hopefully it will clear your head and hers.. and set down some "ground rules" saying you need time with your friends to and stuff like that.. looking like thats what i would do.
 
She got upset because she was thinking that I don't want to see her but he had to understand is not that, it's my needs.... I think a time to date other people should be fine, maybe a month? and then see what happens, I think it's the best choice, and I hope she wants the same si it won't be too difficult for me =S
 
yeah.. well a month.. if you guys were together that long prolly wont be enough.. i had my girl for 2 years.. and i didnt really try for another 2 months. haha. but maybe just taking a break from each other is a possibility.. not necessarily dating other people. if thats what you want go for it but... like just take a break from each other. clear your heads and try again.. who knows.. its your decision.. but there should be a break of some kind.
 
it does feeel different. but like its just because we have kinda been apart so long i think. so, we just started talking again like on monday. i still love her, but i dont know how it will turn out. im hoping for the best.
 
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