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Dinah said:
I don't know about this. There are definitely differences between being married and dating. There may not be differences in terms of how you feel, but there are definitely a lot of legal differences. This is just my opinion and everyone can disagree with me if they want, but to say that they are the essentially the same is short changing everyone. The day that I got married to my husband did not change the way I felt about him, but it did change my legal responsibilities and my legal benefits. Even if the feelings are the same the actual nuts and bolts are different. Being married changes inheritance, it also changes insurance, and it means I can make end of life and other decisions for my husband. Being married is a different kind of commitment, than just dating. It is one thing to say I love this person it is another thing to say I love this person enough to give them the legal rights to end my life (by taking me off support) if I am ever incapacitated. It is one thing to say we share everything and another thing to say I am willing to put my finances legally on the line so that I can be married to this person. I think that to say they are the same short changes the people who take marriage as a serious commitment, and I think that it short changes the people who are fighting hard to have the right to marry. If being married is the same as dating then why are so many gay people bothering to try and get that right? I know that now a days most people don't think like me, but marriage is important and it is serious and it is different from dating.
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Absolutley. :bowdown:

Jay :cool:
 
Dinah said:
I don't know about this. There are definitely differences between being married and dating. There may not be differences in terms of how you feel, but there are definitely a lot of legal differences. This is just my opinion and everyone can disagree with me if they want, but to say that they are the essentially the same is short changing everyone. The day that I got married to my husband did not change the way I felt about him, but it did change my legal responsibilities and my legal benefits. Even if the feelings are the same the actual nuts and bolts are different. Being married changes inheritance, it also changes insurance, and it means I can make end of life and other decisions for my husband. Being married is a different kind of commitment, than just dating. It is one thing to say I love this person it is another thing to say I love this person enough to give them the legal rights to end my life (by taking me off support) if I am ever incapacitated. It is one thing to say we share everything and another thing to say I am willing to put my finances legally on the line so that I can be married to this person. I think that to say they are the same short changes the people who take marriage as a serious commitment, and I think that it short changes the people who are fighting hard to have the right to marry. If being married is the same as dating then why are so many gay people bothering to try and get that right? I know that now a days most people don't think like me, but marriage is important and it is serious and it is different from dating.
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I agree with Jay: :bowdown:

I don't know if most people think like you but I certainly do.
 
Dinah, you are 100% right. Loving someone and giving them rights to your finances and end of life choices are way different. To say living together and being married are the same thing is belittling the rights of the married. There are important changes that come with marriage and I, for one, believe that marriage is a legal arrangement, not one sanctioned by God. Dating is fun, but marriage is better, IMHO.
 
Dinah said:
I don't know about this. There are definitely differences between being married and dating. There may not be differences in terms of how you feel, but there are definitely a lot of legal differences. This is just my opinion and everyone can disagree with me if they want, but to say that they are the essentially the same is short changing everyone. The day that I got married to my husband did not change the way I felt about him, but it did change my legal responsibilities and my legal benefits. Even if the feelings are the same the actual nuts and bolts are different. Being married changes inheritance, it also changes insurance, and it means I can make end of life and other decisions for my husband. Being married is a different kind of commitment, than just dating. It is one thing to say I love this person it is another thing to say I love this person enough to give them the legal rights to end my life (by taking me off support) if I am ever incapacitated. It is one thing to say we share everything and another thing to say I am willing to put my finances legally on the line so that I can be married to this person. I think that to say they are the same short changes the people who take marriage as a serious commitment, and I think that it short changes the people who are fighting hard to have the right to marry. If being married is the same as dating then why are so many gay people bothering to try and get that right? I know that now a days most people don't think like me, but marriage is important and it is serious and it is different from dating.
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dionythicus said:
Dinah, you are 100% right. Loving someone and giving them rights to your finances and end of life choices are way different. To say living together and being married are the same thing is belittling the rights of the married. There are important changes that come with marriage and I, for one, believe that marriage is a legal arrangement, not one sanctioned by God. Dating is fun, but marriage is better, IMHO.
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Obviously no one is claiming she is legally his wife, he just refers to her as his wife. I could call my boyfriend the President of the United States but he wouldn't be, he'd still be my boyfriend. Now you're even picking apart his pet names for his girlfriend?
 
snakewispera snr said:
Am I the only one concerned, that they are going to give the OP a gun and teach him how to kill...:rolleyes:
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More then worried scares the poo out of me, but since the line was drawn I was trying to be civil at least part of the time.
While it may be true some parts of military look for gung-ho types, I hope they also weed out the ones who want to fight on a dime, those who shot first and ask questions later.
This guy scares me all the way around a girlfriend who might as well be a wife for the way she treats him, but he doesn't need a wife. This young woman should run for the hills.
 
Teddy Roosevelt said:
Obviously no one is claiming she is legally his wife, he just refers to her as his wife. I could call my boyfriend the President of the United States but he wouldn't be, he'd still be my boyfriend. Now you're even picking apart his pet names for his girlfriend?
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Unless you've taken the legal step to get married, I don't think you have the right to call each other husband and wife. It's like being called doctor when you're not. Just my opinion.

For the record, I have no respect for this person, based on his posts here. Respect is earned and he hasn't earned it from me. Not that it really matters to either one of us.
 
You know if you guys are getting tired of this subject, LIKE I AM, you could go view the three snake photo shoots I posted today!!
 
dionythicus said:
Unless you've taken the legal step to get married, I don't think you have the right to call each other husband and wife.
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In fact, in certain jurisdictions that recognize common law marriage, that IS one of the steps to becoming married. Common law marriage in some states requires that the couple hold themselves out as husband and wife. A common law marriage can confer rights and responsibilities.
 
They don't have that in Florida. I checked. It's an interesting concept. I wonder, in the states that _do_ recognize common-law marriage, if that applies to homosexual couples as well. Although I have the feeling that the states that recognize CLM are the type of states that do NOT allow same-sex marriages. Or unions, or whatever you want to call it.
 
dionythicus said:
I realise that. I just think there should be more to it. My .02
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I agree with you.

I just put it out there as sort of an educational blurb, because some people can end up owing money and all sorts of other responsibilities when they behave a certain way.
 
Nanci said:
When they fail to commit, but end up that way, anyway!
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One way this shows up is when one of the couple goes their way, and finds another person, and starts another relationship, and then dies.

There is no common law divorce, so the first partner can be entitled under certain circumstances to much of the estate, leaving the second partner out in the cold, without any of them prior to the death realizing that these binding legal relationships have taken place. It can be quite a shock if the first relationship was short and the second lasted a lifetime.
 
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