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OCD is not something you should use as a crutch. You can't just say "oh I can't help it I have OCD". Sure OCD is a serious disorder but you are using it as an excuse WAY too much.
 
You really would be amazed at how much you can learn just by reading through all these forums. You really don't have to argue to read. Use that OCD and read, read, read.
 
Jdizzy--

I want you to try and do something, for me, for yourself, and for the entire forum...

Everytime you read something that angers you, or frustrates you, or just gets your dander in an uproar, type your reply and WAIT before you hit the submit button. Wait for about 10 minutes. Leave your reply on the screen of your computer and go play with Damien or something for about ten minutes and DO NOT think about your post or what made you angry.

When you are done playing with Damien, come back to your reply and re-read it. If it is still exactly as you want it worded...post away. But nine out of ten times this little break will lower your blood pressure and help you to really re-think what you want to say. At that point, you will have enough clarity to post your reply in a manner that will be far less offensive to people, but still allow you to get your point across.

And the bonus is...you won't have to worry about being banned, you won't make so many unnescessary enemies, your posts will be more intelligent and soft spoken, and you'll actually gain some respect and trust from people, because you won;t have the reputation of flying of the handle.

Plus...you won't have to keep saying "I'm sorry".

And don't think of this as a chore. Think of it as a way to really perfect your communication skills. Use the words you WANT to use instead of the first ones that come to mind. Use the short break to seperate yourself from the situation, observe it from an unbiased perspective, try to imagine how the other people are going to respond to what you're writing, and really, honestly, and truly, say exactly what you mean, rather than the first thing that comes to mind.

Could you try that, please? For everyone involved, but most importantly for yourself? You will be surprised how articulate and well-respected you can become over time...I promise...
 
tyflier said:
Jdizzy--

I want you to try and do something, for me, for yourself, and for the entire forum...

Everytime you read something that angers you, or frustrates you, or just gets your dander in an uproar, type your reply and WAIT before you hit the submit button. Wait for about 10 minutes. Leave your reply on the screen of your computer and go play with Damien or something for about ten minutes and DO NOT think about your post or what made you angry.

When you are done playing with Damien, come back to your reply and re-read it. If it is still exactly as you want it worded...post away. But nine out of ten times this little break will lower your blood pressure and help you to really re-think what you want to say. At that point, you will have enough clarity to post your reply in a manner that will be far less offensive to people, but still allow you to get your point across.

And the bonus is...you won't have to worry about being banned, you won't make so many unnescessary enemies, your posts will be more intelligent and soft spoken, and you'll actually gain some respect and trust from people, because you won;t have the reputation of flying of the handle.

Plus...you won't have to keep saying "I'm sorry".

And don't think of this as a chore. Think of it as a way to really perfect your communication skills. Use the words you WANT to use instead of the first ones that come to mind. Use the short break to seperate yourself from the situation, observe it from an unbiased perspective, try to imagine how the other people are going to respond to what you're writing, and really, honestly, and truly, say exactly what you mean, rather than the first thing that comes to mind.

Could you try that, please? For everyone involved, but most importantly for yourself? You will be surprised how articulate and well-respected you can become over time...I promise...
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Wow! I will try that myself.
 
Yea, that is a very good post tyflier. I often read through my replies and think "OMG, what crap have I just written", lol.

Probably explains why my post count isn't very high on any forums, hehe.
 
tyflier said:
Jdizzy--

I want you to try and do something, for me, for yourself, and for the entire forum...

Everytime you read something that angers you, or frustrates you, or just gets your dander in an uproar, type your reply and WAIT before you hit the submit button. Wait for about 10 minutes. Leave your reply on the screen of your computer and go play with Damien or something for about ten minutes and DO NOT think about your post or what made you angry.

When you are done playing with Damien, come back to your reply and re-read it. If it is still exactly as you want it worded...post away. But nine out of ten times this little break will lower your blood pressure and help you to really re-think what you want to say. At that point, you will have enough clarity to post your reply in a manner that will be far less offensive to people, but still allow you to get your point across.

And the bonus is...you won't have to worry about being banned, you won't make so many unnescessary enemies, your posts will be more intelligent and soft spoken, and you'll actually gain some respect and trust from people, because you won;t have the reputation of flying of the handle.

Plus...you won't have to keep saying "I'm sorry".

And don't think of this as a chore. Think of it as a way to really perfect your communication skills. Use the words you WANT to use instead of the first ones that come to mind. Use the short break to seperate yourself from the situation, observe it from an unbiased perspective, try to imagine how the other people are going to respond to what you're writing, and really, honestly, and truly, say exactly what you mean, rather than the first thing that comes to mind.

Could you try that, please? For everyone involved, but most importantly for yourself? You will be surprised how articulate and well-respected you can become over time...I promise...
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Tyflier,
I think that was probably the most intelligent post I have read anywhere in a very long time. And as a few have insinuated, that advice could go for just about any of us, not just JDizzy.
Thank you for putting into writin an intelligent and thoughtful post!
 
Jdizzyfizzy said:
Well, Well, Well, School Dosent Start for a week, And i dont want to get banned, i have OCD, and I have never ever, ever, been banned from a forum, my fear is that i annoy so many people the admin will see this and think we need rid of him, also i have decided to ignor my little break away, i think i was just a little mad, now i have calmed down i feel as tho i can still come on here.
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DogStar5988 said:
OCD is not something you should use as a crutch. You can't just say "oh I can't help it I have OCD". Sure OCD is a serious disorder but you are using it as an excuse WAY too much.
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Dogstar took the words from my mouth here. Jdizzyfizzy, what is the relevance of your OCD to the method of composure you apply to your posts around here? OCD does not prevent you from hitting the "search" function nor does it mean the entire forum is conspiring against you. OCD consists of intrusive, disturbing thoughts, of which compulsive behaviour is the consequence. I'm sorry but I can't see how it stops you from thinking and re-reading your post before you press "submit."

George, it isn't a good idea to use a mental illness to try and win sympathy and forgiveness. We're all responsible for our actions regardless.
 
Sigh.

I thought you said that you weren't going to respond to older threads and had requested that they be locked so that they could die away. (Not that the admin, who's fairly busy, has the time to take you up on the that request.)

If you want jdizzy to fade away, you're going to have to practice some self-control and not respond....

SaulsMom
 
Yea, i agree, i just didnt want people replying and replying for no reason, it would be like wasting there time, so people just dont respond to any threads under the name of "Jdizzyfizzy" thank you!
 
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