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Are you happy with the way you look?

Snake Dave said:
And being happy with your appearance isn't necessarily vanity or narcissism.
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Hmmmm.....narcissism.....narcissistic.....interesting word/words....

I had thought that theme was too strong, almost accusatory,.......so I was disinclined to use that (diagnostic) word in any form.

My point is that some investments depreciate over time, and some investments appreciate over time. There generally comes a time for everyone when one divests one's self of the former, and invests in the latter.
It's generally different for everyone, but also about the same, temporally, in a manner of speaking.
Of course, one can avail one's self by beginning early, or one can handicap one's self by beginning too late.
Just my philosophical thoughts on the subject. :D ;)
 
I haven't read the whole topic, but as per my usual, I'm going to weigh in, regardless...;)

I'm quite happy with the way I look. I suffered from "ugly duckling syndrome", and I was incessantly teased and harrassed as a kid. I wasn't popular or attractive, didn't date much, and generally kept to myself.

I grew into myself over the years. While I don't see many changes in my physical appearance(aside from getting taller and stronger), I have become more comfortable with my appearance. I know I'm not "ugly"...I've had too many incredibly attractive girlfriends to think I am ugly. I don't necessarily consider myself attractive, either. I consider myself a fairly normal, average-looking dude...I'm 6'2" tall, and I weigh roughly 180lbs, depending on what I've had to eat for the last couple days.

There was a time when I was in fantastic shape from rock climbing 3-5 days a week, even bouldering at a competitive level, and sport climbing in to the high 5.12 range. I was long and lean and packed with muscle...6'2" and about 165lbs of lean muscle. I'm not anymore, and I'm OK with that...I've got no one to impress. I've developed a bit of a gut over the last 5 years...being a single father can do that you...and I've started to gather grey hair at the temples and in my beard. As well...I've started growing hair in places that shuoldn't have regular hair growth...my ears and nose hairs are a bit unruly at times...but that's why they make trimmers and shavers.

I try to stay in reasonable shape, and I try to take care of myself, but ultimately...I'm too jaded to change my lifestyle, and too old to care if anyone thinks I'm "hot" anymore. It just doesn't impact my life as much as it did when I was 21...

Anyhow...I don't know if I am so much happy with the way I look...or simply resigned and comfortable with what I look like, knowing it isn't going to change for the better anytime in the near future...;)

But all in all...I won't complain. I get my fair share of compliments and sideways glances, and I have no trouble meeting and talking with females, so...I'm happy. I'm comfortable and confident, and really...my opinion is the only one I care about anymore. I don't cringe when I look in the mirror, and there isn't anything that I can put my finger on as being in need of change or betterment. So I suppose that's good...:D
 
dwyn127 said:
I'm happy with how I look, and as you can see, so are the ladies!!

Who's yer Daddy?!?
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You do NOT have [permission to use my self-portrait in such a manner!!! (just kidding, just kdding...I didn't take the picture...;))
 
dwyn127 said:
I'm happy with how I look, and as you can see, so are the ladies!!

Who's yer Daddy?!?
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Oh my!!!
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vetusvates said:
Hmmmm.....narcissism.....narcissistic.....interesting word/words....

I had thought that theme was too strong, almost accusatory,.......so I was disinclined to use that (diagnostic) word in any form.

My point is that some investments depreciate over time, and some investments appreciate over time. There generally comes a time for everyone when one divests one's self of the former, and invests in the latter.
It's generally different for everyone, but also about the same, temporally, in a manner of speaking.
Of course, one can avail one's self by beginning early, or one can handicap one's self by beginning too late.
Just my philosophical thoughts on the subject. :D ;)
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Why not devote oneself to improving all aspects?

And no, I apologise if it came across as accusatory. I was just interested to see what people thought.
 
Hey I think yer hot Chris ;)

Actually, just about everyone here is attractive in a sense. Its the eye of the beholder, and also the human nature. Like I said, our nature is to dislike some aspect of ourselves. I find something attractive in everyone. I love Dale's smile, I'm adore Robbie's cute little ears (especially when he tucks his hair around them), I'm fascinated with the multiple colors in Elle's eyes, I love Janine's facial expressions, I'm fascinated by Lynn's mouth...

I guess if there is one aspect that I'm attracted to, I'm automatically attracted to the rest of them. Of course, there is also personality to consider as well. I'm more attracted to personality and intellect than anything physical.
 
Jynx said:
Hey I think yer hot Chris ;)

Actually, just about everyone here is attractive in a sense. Its the eye of the beholder, and also the human nature. Like I said, our nature is to dislike some aspect of ourselves. I find something attractive in everyone. I love Dale's smile, I'm adore Robbie's cute little ears (especially when he tucks his hair around them), I'm fascinated with the multiple colors in Elle's eyes, I love Janine's facial expressions, I'm fascinated by Lynn's mouth...

I guess if there is one aspect that I'm attracted to, I'm automatically attracted to the rest of them. Of course, there is also personality to consider as well. I'm more attracted to personality and intellect than anything physical.
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Really? I always just think of them as hair and glasses holders. :D LOL.
(BTW, you're a little hottie! Don't lie! I've seen pictures!)
 
Oh I'm an odd one, yes. But your ears are still cute as hell! I find alot of odd thngs cute. I'm absolutely obsessed with my hubby's clavicles and the prominence of his veins.

And thanks (though I totally don't agree. Again, thats the self-consciesness talking).
 
My mouth? Really? Are you sure it isn't all the red paint on it? Or the fact that it's constantly running? I kid! Thank you! I've never had anybody compliment my mouth! Well, not compliments that I can repeat here! ;)
Now I must go study my mouth in all my pics so I can see what is so fascinating about it!
 
I would be here all day trying to find descritptive terms to explain why I'm fascinated by your mouth & lips.

The best way I can think of is comparing it to Jessica Rabbit meets Geisha with the perfect pursing ability.

Does any of that make sense? If not, its ok... like I said I'm a little odd.
 
Jynx said:
Oh I'm an odd one, yes. But your ears are still cute as hell! I find alot of odd thngs cute. I'm absolutely obsessed with my hubby's clavicles and the prominence of his veins.

And thanks (though I totally don't agree. Again, thats the self-consciesness talking).
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:D I will agree that there are some odd things on people that are cute. There are some people that just have cute little collarbones. Don't know why, but they're cute.

(That's not self-consciousness... that's humble-ness. And that's even sexier. ;) )
 
Jynx said:
I would be here all day trying to find descritptive terms to explain why I'm fascinated by your mouth & lips.

The best way I can think of is comparing it to Jessica Rabbit meets Geisha with the perfect pursing ability.

Does any of that make sense? If not, its ok... like I said I'm a little odd.
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No, that makes sense! I'm just not used to compliments! I've always been told my mouth is too small for my face. In fact I just got told that the other day by my daughter(out of the mouths of babes, right?)
 
Hey my eyes are too small for my face, but alot of people thing thats my best feature. If we were judging proportions, I'd be all over the place. Besides, correct proportion can sometimes be boring. Someone may say your mouth is small. I would say delicate, and that makes it that much more special.
 
Jynx said:
Oh I'm an odd one, yes. But your ears are still cute as hell! I find alot of odd thngs cute. I'm absolutely obsessed with my hubby's clavicles and the prominence of his veins.
And thanks (though I totally don't agree. Again, thats the self-consciesness talking).
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That's a nurse thing. I'm the same way. I find myself staring at people's veins with absolute lust in my eyes. :laugh:
 
Jynx said:
I love Dale's smile....
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Well, Catherine.....if it works for ya, I could mail you my teeth. Let me know.

(You think I'm joking. If it weren't for my dental work, I'd look like a really lousy minor league hockey defenseman.)


Dale
 
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