desertanimal
2003 UB313
Good for us. We need more people who understand and value the separation of church and state.Clipclopclop I have no problem whatsoever with you or your partner, and I agree that you should have the ability to get a Civil Union as I stated in the first part of the post. I just also understand where the government could be worried about fraud. I hope that the gay community IS allowed to acquire a civil union, and I support your argument wholeheartedly.
But I must admit that I am still confused about the potential fraud issue. Who would be committing this fraud? Gays? Since we only compose 3-5% of the population, even if we were to rush into fake marriages wholesale just to get tax benefits, I don't think it would make a big splash. This begs the question of what is in place to prevent the 95-97% of heteros from running out and having fake marriages? Nothing. But is it a rampant problem? Not really. Why? Because tying yourself up legally to another person so tightly isn't something to be taken lightly, and it prevents you from tying yourself up legally with anyone else.
From a cultural standpoint, gays are actually probably much LESS likely to engage in fake marriages for tax benefits than straights, because a lot of gays (like feminists) have mixed feelings about the whole institution. This ambivalence toward the institution is much more common among gays than among straights in my experience. But it seems that you are suggesting that for some reason gays are more likely to get "fake" married. Why?
As a side-note, what constitutes a fake marriage? Nothing, really. There's no law that says that in order for two straight people to be married they have to live together, have an exclusive sexual relationship, have ANY sexual relationship, like each other, have any kids together, whatever. Dean and I could go get married tomorrow and it wouldn't be a fake marriage, it would be a legal, civil marriage that comes with a whole bunch of rights and privileges. There's nothing at all in the world to prevent it and there's nothing fraudulent about it. It would be odd, because it would be a little crazy to get legally bound to each other like that since we don't know each other that well, but it would make the point that civil and religious marriages are two different things. In fact, I know two gay people who got married in just that way to make just that point. She's a lesbian and he's gay and they are in committed, monogamous sexual relationships with same-sex partners, living in domiciles with their same-sex partners, but they are married to each other. There you go. There's your "fraudulent" marriage. They would much rather marry their respective sexual and emotional partners, and would if given the opportunity, but if it arises, they'll have to get divorced first.