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desertanimal said:Agreed. That's how people work. And if you're too sensitive and feel too unwelcome to stick it out or to make a concerted effort to talk to people who are there, then you lose out. I think you need to give people more than one (more than a couple) of chances before you decide they didn't want to talk to you. Truth is, unless they told you they didn't want to talk to you or were outright rude, you don't know why they didn't talk to you. I KNOW lots of people that are in the chatroom and they don't always say hi when I arrive. I don't take offense at that. It's like walking up to two people who are already having a conversation. They don't have to stop what they're doing just because you appeared. And I don't expect them to. I wait until a break in the conversation to say hello. If a person I don't know walks up to a group of my friends having a conversation, I assume they are waiting to talk to someone else who knows them. I don't take it upon myself to say hi or converse. If they start a conversation with me, I'll converse, but I make no special effort to include them. And it really isn't my responsibility to do so. Talking is a two-way street, and if you want it, you should go out and get it. Heck, if I don't pipe up in chat, people can assume that I just came to listen. Which is, in fact, pretty much true for me. Oh and you should also know that lots of times when people are "in" there, they actually aren't there--they go surf the threads while they're waiting for someone to show up, so sometimes they don't reply because they didn't see that you "spoke."
i don't think there can be a better explanation to the "inside" of a chat room. my thoughts exactly........... :cheers: