I don't know you and you don't know me, but that doesn't change the fact that I am sooo sorry to hear about this. Those pictures break my heart. I can't even begin to imagine how you must have felt. And I'm not even going to begin to comment on such insensitive, useless advice given... no, no, not going into it any more than that. I will say that reading this thread I went from sad to angry to sad/angry/frustrated. I'm sure you're feeling that tenfold.
Through whatever forces that exist in the universe, I've found that the "everything happens in threes" idea is frighteningly consistent. Under that pretense, I'd say you've had more than your fair share of three terrible experiences. As devastating as they are, I hope that in the end they are just paving way to many many good times to come.