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I relize I have been a jerk OK. I want to change so now I am going to work on taking down some of my videos and change them or just quit making them. I relize my corn snanke dropped. I have been observing him and making sure he is okay he seems to be okay but only time will tell. So I would like to know if this form will give me another chamce. I relize that I need to listen and I am defensive. but I get that way sometimes due to ADHD. SOmetimes when I talk in my videos I don't really know what I am saying and I will take those down. I want to listen so please allow me to present my self in a good manner from now on
All the best
David D
snakemaster24
 
Everybody gave you a second chance. And then we gave you a third. Now your asking for a fourth.

Tell you what...make the changes. Don't ask for another chance, just make the changes. Don't ask us to accept you, welcome you, and greet you as a friend...just make the changes.

If you make the changes, and take what people said to heart, and truly make an effort to turn your attitude and manner around...everything else will happen.

But don't expect anyone to come into this thread and say, "It's OK, David. We forgive you. Come let's be best friends"...It simply isn't going to happen. People can only get burned so many times before they stop sitting on a stove...

Oh, and just for the record...blaming your bad attitude on ADHD is another copout...just so you know...
 
I really do have it I can show you the medicine bottle with my name on it but them I might get stalked LOL.
I have just deleted a bunch of videos. I gonna quit makin em for a while
 
snakemaster24 said:
I really do have it I can show you the medicine bottle with my name on it but them I might get stalked LOL.
I have just deleted a bunch of videos. I gonna quit makin em for a while
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Whether or not you have ADHD is NOT the point.
The point is it's just another excuse for your behavior.
 
Come on guys! I haven't been a part of this little troll hunt or whatever it is, but I can't sit here and watch you guy keep nit picking away. If you don't like the boy, stay out of his threads and have nothing to do with him. There is an ignore feature for a reason. I am in no way whatsoever condoning his crappy attitude or behaviour around here BUT from what I can tell it seems David thrives on attention be it good or bad and well I think you know whats the best way to sort that problem out. Tis all I am saying.
 
David, everyone thinks differently to a lot of people. As a group this forum has people of wildly differing ages, interests, backgrounds. We fight, argue, disagree. Then we get along. Then we fight again. Because that's what people do.
You'll never find a place, even online, where everyone will agree with and make allowances for you. Even though I'm my own biggest fan, I've had to learn, eventually, that there are some foolish people who don't like me, so I look at if it's my fault or theirs, if there are things I can change, if there are things I want to change, or if I really care about them. It's all part of life.
 
I am not defending you David, merely pointing out that people are getting their nickers in a twist about something that doesn't really matter. You don't matter in the grand scheme of things, do what you like with your snakes and videos and all that jazz. Just don't expect many positive responses from the poeople here that you have so clearly miffed off.
 
David. I think most of us would love to see you be a productive part of the community. Please don't throw your past and present difficulties up as reasons for your behavior though. You have to OWN your behavior and not make excuses for it.
I think we can give you ONE MORE CHANCE to see if indeed your willing to change and become a part of the community or revert back to your 15 year old "I know it all, and you all know nothing" attitude.
 
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I relize I have been a jerk OK. I want to change so now I am going to work on taking down some of my videos and change them or just quit making them.
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You've been saying that since you got banned the first time. I have yet to see you even attempt.

I relize that I need to listen and I am defensive. but I get that way sometimes due to ADHD.
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Really? If you're blaming being a jerk because of ADHD, every other person you bumped into would be an arrogant, conceited, ego stroking, know-it-all twit. So far, you're the only one I've seen with that particular side effect.

SOmetimes when I talk in my videos I don't really know what I am saying and I will take those down.
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Then why did you post them in the first place?

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Thanks I mean I want to change but I guess it is hard to truly satisfy here
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It really isn't hard. Just shut up and listen now and then.
 
Tula_Montage said:
I am not defending you David, merely pointing out that people are getting their nickers in a twist about something that doesn't really matter. You don't matter in the grand scheme of things, do what you like with your snakes and videos and all that jazz. Just don't expect many positive responses from the poeople here that you have so clearly miffed off.
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Thats about the top and bottom of it Dave....
Why not take down all the vids and scrape your channel for now... Keep making vids, for your self, just don't show us....
Make the odd comment in threads, ask questions in others.... Generally just chill out......
 
You've gotten ALOT of good advice here David. If your honest about wanting to change My suggestion to you is READ what is being said and take it to heart and follow it.
Otherwise, we'll all end up in the same place as before. Time will tell if you actually are willing and able to change or not.
 
I really wanted to avoid this thread.. Not worth me getting my undies tied up over.. And I am not going to let that happen regardless..

Give yourself some more time to expieriance the keeping of the critters.. That is a big thing.. We can read books till we are blue in the face, but until the first hand thing comes along, we are only taking the words verbatim.

In a few years your going to wonder why on earth did I do these videos, and realize that what you originally percieved as critisizim might have actually been some really good advice.. Of course when you get responses from people, its usually a good thing, and indeed they don;t want you to leave, rather they want you to become more educated.. Thats just life like Lil said..

Regards.. Tim of T and J
 
I, and my mother, her siblings, her father, and my brother, all have or had *severe* ADHD. We've been used in scientific studies, it is so severe. We have brain scans showing how parts of our brain shut down as we concentrate on complicated tasks that are lighting up with greater activity in normal people.

And yet, we all type well, are articulate, and none of us get defensive over things. I actually enjoy criticism when warranted because it allows me to improve myself. I love getting and following sage advice. I acknowledge readily that I do not know everything and will never know everything.

Don't use an actual condition to blame your personality on. I am the way I am because I'm *me*, not because I have ADHD.

Instead, actually go out and *do* what needs to be done. Lamenting over it does nothing but bring drama. Instead, do your research before hand. Read everything aloud so you know how it sounds, and then modify it for flow. Prepare everything you need for a video in advance, using a checklist. Ask for advice before each video so you can get tips on information to add and props to use. Make sure the area around you looks professional. If an indoor space won't work, try the great outdoors for some videos, or see if your school might let you use a classroom after hours. That way you can also have key points neatly written on a chalkboard.
 
If you truly want to change, spend time asking questions and reading, and not posting "look at my sanke" threads.

I could spend hours reading threads by KathyLove and other folks on this forum that know a heck of a lot more than I do... there is so much information to be gained here, for people of ANY background and experience level-- if only you are humble enough to reach out for it!
 
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