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I'm sorry..I need to vent a little here..I'm losing my mind..

Maize411

Maize411

Hooked for life!!
I don't know how everything could be going along so good at one minute and then suddenly everything falls apart! My life is in such a deep hole right now that I have even thought multiple times of just getting up and leaving..leaving everything behind..my problems, my fiance..my animals..Life has just caught up with me in the worst way possible..

First my job laid me off for the season because it closed down for the winter..so I am jobless, then my fiance pays off the maintnance fees because they were threatening to put a lean on the house..so he sent them all the money he had in the bank..but right after that the mortgage took 900 out of his account..so now he is negative 900 in his bank account, the bank is demanding a payment for my car or else their going to take it back..cable and internet had been turned off because we can't pay them, t-mobile turned off my cell phone..there is no food in the house and I can't afford to buy anymore and un-employment finally got in touch with me but now they are saying there is an issue with my account so they will contact me in a few days! I am quite literally at the lowest point of my life right now..Everything is falling apart in front of my eyes..and I don't know what to do..

The cats are out of food, the cat I found in Newark and saved constantly keeps fighting with my other 2 cats, my one cat Mitsi refuses to use the litter box that Callie has used (the cat I rescued) so she now goes all over the house..wherever she wants to go!! The beardies have started to fight and the two bigger ones ganged on the the smallest one I think he may have a broken arm now..the other 2 also have some bite marks..I treated their bites with peroxide and washed their wounds..Our condo still isn't selling though we need it to sell more then ever now! The house is a disaster and nobody here ever seems to want to help clean..

I am sorry to come here and complain about so much..I know everyone here has their own problems..but I just needed to vent to someone..anyone...Carrying it all inside me is tearing me apart..

Does anyone want to adopt a cat? Or maybe adopt a beardie? I just need some help right now..And it seems that I'm just not getting any :(

The only piece of good news is that I might have a new job..I go to my second interview tomorrow..Supposedly I get 800 every 2 weeks, and that is my garunteed pay..but I have a chance to make commission as well..basically I'm going from house to house demonstrating vacumes and other home appliances..if the person buys the appliance...I guess I get a commission..I'm going to be finding out more tomorrow..
 
Maize,

I am really sorry this awful stuff is happening. Hang in there! Hopefully the job will come thru &/or unemployment. Can you take the rescue cat to a shelter?
 
I am so sorry that you are having troubles. I have felt like my life was like that sometimes but keep your chin up! Things will get better! They always do!
 
Sweetie, there is not a whole lot of fix-it in anything I could say. I'm glad you can vent, and have a place to do it. The old "adversity builds character" proverb doesn't pay the bills or put food on the table.
I remember being younger, and going through periods of feeling like life was precarious. And that made me all the more determined to be an average, content, secure, boring middle-aged person. I've built a humble but...snakey...and techy...world around myself, that is very comfy.
You will have your version one day. Just have hope, believe in what is good, and strive to be good. Good will come to you.
 
Ah Maiza!! Sorry to hear this. It been some tough time for you for sure.
If you can talk to the bank and ask them if they can work something out with you. I know unemployment is all screw up right now. Last winter I fought with them but got nowhere. Little steps are needed now for you. Hang tight.

I'll say a word to the big guy for ya too!!
 
my computer is being a POS, so this is attempt #3 to post this...but you seem really down so it feels important to make the effort.
I'm so sorry to hear about your troubles! i've been there, the down and out with no cash comming in and bills to pay yesterday. theres nothing worse than trying your hardest and not getting anywhere fast. a while ago i rescued an orange tom cat from my work. he was a living skeleton, so i never regreted it, but he caused me alot of problems. my cat that i alredy had also refused the litterbox...i ended up having to keep the new cat in the bathroom with a litterbox in the shower and food and water untill i found a shelter that would let me drop him off with no money.
i hope you can hang on a little while longer...your doing all the right things and it looks like your on the verge of new luck (knock on wood! i hope your interview goes amazingly).
...dont get offended or embarrased. this is an honest suggestion, and something i've had to do more than once. do you have a food bank in your area? its times like this, when people need a little boost, a little help. if your hungry, if your cats are hungry, maybe they can help. when your back on top, you can donate back to them.
i REALLY hope the sun comes out again for you very soon. just try to take it one step at a time. *hugs*
 
Sounds like a whole bunch of stress right now for you and that sucks. The only thing that has ever helped me through tough financial times (or any stressful time) is to try to not let it overwhelm me emotionally. I have had those times where I wish I could crawl under my covers in my bed and just not come out, ever. Those times that I had no answers, had no solutions, no light at the end of the tunnel so it seemed, no happiness to be found. I would dwell and dwell on all of this over and over. It would be like this big cloud of darkness smothering me and turning me into a blob of hopelessness, someone I didn't even recognize. All I can say is just please try and stay positive and take just one day at a time. One hour at a time if you need to. Remember to tell yourself. THIS TOO WILL PASS, because it will.
 
Thank you all for your kind words..I cannot even express my gratitude to all of you for not only your encouragement but your time..You all are truly my angels during this hard time I am facing..And I am certain I would truly go mad if not for the kind hearts I find here. I have never been part of such a wonderful community. This forum to me goes beyond just a site or place to find out about snake care..This is truly a second home sort of..A place to come and talk, laugh, cry, and vent. And all of you are always there..I love you all..even though I don't know so many of you and don't even know what you look like..I love your kind hearts and compassionate natures..Thank you all..
 
Are your parents willing to help, or his? You can always look into local food banks too my kids and I just volunteered at one that actually carried dog and cat food if that helps any. All I can say is this will be one of many times you are beyond broke in your life trust me,lol its the reason I went back to school to finish the Masters. We never had anything turned off, but we've been late more than once, and while we've always had food there were times we had to really stretch a dollar to make it through the week until our next paychecks- I can't imagine no job right now. Maybe look into benefits your county offers many programs will help you find a job:( Cheer up and remember life is all about peaks and valleys. You constantly climb to the top to fall right back down, but if you didn't you'd never apprecite the view:)
 
I don't know if you're in the city at all; but an easy way to make some cash is dog walking. It sounds pretty ridiculous - but you'd be surprised how many people in the city are too busy or unable to walk their dogs! I posted one ad and had a woman asked me to walk her two dogs every day until she was able to get back on her feet - at fifteen dollars a day, for an hour of my time - it was a pretty sweet deal.

I hope everything works out for you.
 
I'm sorry your having such a tough time. I wish I was able to help you out with the cat or beardie, I would if I could. I really hope things start to look up for you really soon.
 
So sorry to hear of all of your problems! It sounds like you can't even see a light at the end of the tunnel, unless this job works out for you. I don't know if it really helps you feel any better about it, but you sure do have a lot of company these days! It is not your fault that jobs are so scarce and real estate is not selling well - although it does seem to be picking up lately in many areas. But knowing that doesn't feed the kitties - or you!

Is it possible to move in with friends or relatives for a while, until things turn around? If you are upside down in your condo, you may have to let it go like lots of others have done, including some of my friends and relatives.

These things seem to go in cycles. When I was about 26 or 27, we were both out of work and down to our last couple of dollars. We had a big old truck that got terrible mileage, and we lived in a mobile home way out in the sticks - couldn't even afford to take a minimum wage fast food job, because they were too far away, and our transportation was too expensive and unreliable. So one day we went into Ft. Myers (45 minutes away) to check out a possible "good" job. I had a Sears credit card, so I knew we could get gas to get home. Well, the job didn't pan out, and it turned out that the Sears pumps were torn up for remodeling - we couldn't even get home! So we checked the newspaper and found out we could get enough money to buy gas by selling our blood plasma. We spent the afternoon at the place, bought gas, and got home. Eventually I went to nursing school (LPN) and finally got a decent job so we could save up to start a business. Then things picked up.

The point of that long story is that, while it seems horrible now, it will likely pass. I believe that if you don't go through some bad times, you will never really appreciate the good times when they do come. And if your fiance sticks with you through this, and turns out to be your lifelong partner, then sharing the bad times together will probably actually create a bond that will help you face adversity in the future.

Wish there was some way to offer more concrete help right now, but maybe some of those thoughts will help you get through this difficult time, and to be stronger on the other side.

We are all rooting for you!
 
Oh Maize... I'm so sorry things are rough for you right now, but it will get better. Just keep breathing and taking little steps and everything will work out.
 
Maize, I'm sorry that everything is bleak right now... I hope that the job works out and starts you both onto a better and more stable path.

You're in my thoughts and heart. Hoping for the best.
 
Thank you all..I would rep you all but I have spread too much rep now and must wait...but all your kind words and thoughts are helping me so much during this time and I thank you..
 
Do you or your fiance have any church afiliation? Churches generally help members in need until they can get back on their feet...most people don't think about church charity these days but church members are happy to help when they can.

You may also be able to get help from a rescue organization who gets donations of food
from pet stores (generally food that has passed it's saleable shelf life but still ok to feed
to your pets)...if they have extra...the worst thing that you will hear from anyone is "no"
and they may have other suggestions that will help you...rescue groups are often very
creative. Also, any pets you have that eat veggies and fruit...hit grocery stores and ask
for old, spoiled or scraps (spoiled for people is not spoiled for animals it may just be ugly ...talk to the manager of the store or the produce section and explain your situation.
Hang in there...Laura


I often feel like I am living under the shadow of the Chinese curse, "May you live in interesting times" myself.
 
I am really sorry that you have to go through all of this, it's very scary to not be able to stand on your own financially like that all of a sudden. I was close to it at some point and I recall the levels of anxiety...
Is there a way to get a loan perhaps? Via a credit card company/bank/whatever?
I wish I could help, but from across the world it's a tad difficult.

I really hope things work out for you swiftly.
 
If you were laid off you may be elibible for unemployment compensation even if you subsequently find new employment, to cover the time you were unemployed, check for details. The Dep't of Human Services offers food stamps and emergency funding, you might want to call to see if you are eligible for either, and I hope things look up for you soon:

http://www.state.nj.us/humanservices/clients/welfare/
 
And about the critters- cats would like you to believe that cat food only consists of yummy canned cat food, preferably an expensive brand. That is hogwash. If you have no catfood, share your own food with them and they will be fine. My mom always had cats and in the early days she would use a box where the 'litter' was torn up newspaper and the cats always used it. So if one of your cats is persnickety and wants its own box, you can make a cat box with a cut down cardboard box lined with a plastic bag and filled with torn newspaper,
Sounds like you might want to separate the beardies if they are being nasty to one another.
 
There is a really good reptile rescue called MARS here in Maryland. You might look into them for your lizards. They may be able to help you get them down here via volunteers-- not certain.

Tara and I were in really rough times all this summer. We are just beginning to get breathing room. Just remember, like all things, this too shall pass.
 
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